“Equal Rights? Not for Fathers.”
- Ryan Alvar
- May 4
- 3 min read
When Family Court Abandons Equality, It Abandons Justice
We live in a country that prides itself on equality under the law. Women have fought and earned the right to be treated equally — in the workplace, in healthcare, in education, and under the Constitution. And that progress matters.
But for fathers in family court, gender equality ends at the courthouse door.
Despite the laws on paper, reality looks different:
In over 80% of contested custody cases, mothers are awarded sole custody.
Fathers are often presumed secondary — required to prove their right to be involved.
Parental alienation by mothers is ignored, while child support enforcement against fathers is automated.
This isn’t equality. This is a selective justice system, clinging to outdated assumptions that favor one parent over another — not based on merit, but gender.
So what happened to fairness? What happened to logic?
That brings us to a foundational legal truth:“Reason is the soul of all law.”
Laws — and the rulings they produce — must be grounded in logic, fairness, and rational justification. When they’re not, they become arbitrary and oppressive.
Take the common scenario:
A father signs a Recognition of Parentage (ROP).
He seeks custody or parenting time.
He’s denied involvement.
Yet, he's still ordered to pay child support — garnished directly from his paycheck.
How is that reasonable?
If he’s fit to fund the child’s life, why is he not fit to participate in it?
If both parents are essential for emotional and financial support, how can the law justify excluding one from the child's life — while still demanding his paycheck?
This defies logic. It defies fairness. And it defies the Constitution.
The 14th Amendment’s Equal Protection Clause is violated when courts grant rights based on gender.
Due Process is eroded when a father’s role is denied without meaningful review.
Liberty interests — including the fundamental right to parent — are discarded under layers of bureaucracy and bias.
A law that ignores reason is no law at all. It’s coercion with a legal stamp.
That’s why we launched the Real Dad Initiative — to fight back against this broken system. To push for updated laws. To enforce the rights of children to know and be raised by both parents. And to wake up the lawmakers who too often preside over this injustice in silence.
This Father’s Day, let’s stop accepting the myth that equality exists in family court — and start demanding the reforms that real justice requires.
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I’ve already heard from parents who’ve lost everything. Some haven’t seen their children in years.
This is real. This is dangerous. And this is why we fight.
Ryan -
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