Guardian ad Litem Family Court Report (Temporary) - Updated

Ryan Alvar
Feb 12
58 min read

Updated: Jul 27

Today July 15, 2025, I was released from the St. Louis County Jail after complying under protest with a court order that demanded I remove the Guardian ad Litem (GAL) report from my website. Let me be clear: I did not agree with the order. I complied only to protect my livelihood and my responsibilities—not because I believe the order was lawful.

This isn’t over. Far from it. There is more going on behind the scenes, and I am confident that in time, the truth will come to light and this unconstitutional order will be overturned.

As you can see below, the original blog post—which previously included the GAL report—has now been gutted and reduced to just my reaction. The public can no longer read the source material for themselves. They are expected to take my word for what was in the report—a report that documented serious concerns, trauma, and abuse suffered by my children. Now the courts have made it so that only my words remain, not the evidence. Why? Because it didn’t fit their narrative.

When the judge commented today that I had “time to think about this” while in jail, I corrected her:

“No, I’ve already thought about this. I didn’t need jail to understand what’s happening. What I’ve proven is that this state is more willing to punish a parent who is trying to protect his children than to protect the children themselves.”

I made it clear: I am complying under protest. But as a business owner, I cannot sit in jail indefinitely. I have customers who depend on me. I have financial obligations. I have two older children who still need their father. And I have already made my point—this state is willing to jail a protective parent rather than confront its own failure to act.

The censored report had been publicly available for many months. Many have read it. And those who did know what the state is trying to hide. There was nothing confidential in that report that I, as the father of these children, don’t have a right to share. What’s being protected here isn’t the children—it’s the inaction of the Guardian ad Litem and the courts.

But you can still hear the truth for yourselves. The audio recordings of my children and the Guardian ad Litem—which are not part of the GAL report—are still lawfully mine to publish. I encourage you to listen and decide for yourself what the state is trying to suppress.

This isn’t over. There’s still a Hail Mary in the air—and it hasn’t landed yet.

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Ordinal blog post minus the additional redactions imposed July 15, 2025:

We received the temporary Guardian ad Litem court recommendation a month ago but I have been holding off on mentioning it as the case has evolved some since. This post is going to hit on most of it but not all of it, as it is ongoing and I don't want me providing information at this point to cause issues with my other cases.

A Guardian ad Litem is a court appointed guardian for the children. Their purpose is to investigate a case and recommend to the court what's in the best interest for the children. This process is specifically for my child custody case against Amy.

This is a temporary report meaning she is holding off on making a final recommendation to the court until the psychological evaluation is complete and/or she receives additional information that would change her recommendation.

I understand my statements made here and previous statements could be used against me as again, this is only a temporary report and she has yet to make it final. I knowingly make these statements only to provide a record of our broken court system when it comes to understanding mental health, false allegations of domestic abuse, false allegations of child abuse and how our government has no idea how to identify or judge it even when all evidence proves it. By this action our government allows domestic violence and child abuse to continue. Proven. There is no other way to explain it. I also believe in candor when it comes to important aspects of our lives. In Relationships, business, politics and especially our government, it is important to maintain candor. Without it there are no open and honest discussions. We need that to make change for the better. So yes, every time I state something I create risk, but understand I outweigh that fact for positive change in the future. I would also go as far as saying if we live in a society that would condemn me for making a change for the better. I would want no part of it. I think most would agree.

I also have every level of our legislature informed of my case and by me providing a record for them to follow, I'm hoping that my injustice will gain traction so that our laws are changed and no other family has to go through this. We can stop intergenerational abuse. We just need to change our laws so rather than fighting our government for our families safety we can work together to make it happen. Imagine what we could accomplish if we could focus all our energy on that.

We would have safe loving families that could provide a home that all children deserve to grow up in. In turn we would end intergenerational abuse so that their children would never know trauma.

I also have a legal right to provide this information as all court cases are public record unless sealed by the court. To be fair, I have already provided all information on each case from both sides to be fully transparent. Nothing I have shared is one sided except for my statements / opinions. I only give those statements / opinions to provide insight into these cases. I have already provided all the hard evidence in previous posts to provide a link between those statements / opinions and hard facts. Which in turn makes my statements / opinions factual and not subjective.

For example: When there is a statement of domestic abuse against me on Amy and I say it never happened. See 73 - 2024 07 03 #24092134_Police Report to see where law enforcement says I had injuries but Amy didn't have any visible. She was questioned if she had any additional injuries besides the injury that wasn't visible and she says no, I don't think so. This, a day after the event that I called law enforcement and she didn't. Red Flag! Also see Amy's request for an OFP that states the opposite, that I assaulted her which contradicts the police report. See her statement in the request for an OFP where she states law enforcement wasn't called for the event, which contradicts the police report where it says I called to report an assault on me. See what I'm saying. My statements mean nothing without being followed up by hard evidence. When this is accomplished my statements are credible, actually just plain factual. The sad thing is our system is set up to allow our courts to make arbitrary decisions without utilizing these facts and a person's word can be taken as fact without even using their own words against them. Such as Amy's statement in the police report that she hit me and afterwards I restrained her by holding her down, an audio recording that was played in court that I say "you hit me" she says, "I know I did, I hit you fucking hard" when she split my face open as proven by police records and photographs. Amy's additional statements in court when she admits to hitting me, she admits to me grabbing her arms to hold her on the bed to restrain after her hitting me. When asked if after she hit me, did I hit her back she states "no". Therefore proof, she was the aggressor, physically violent, and I defended myself by restraining her as I have a legal right to do. This act is not abuse by me. In fact it's the opposite. It's abuse by her.

Every single statement I make and every single opinion I give is backed up by at least one piece of evidence that has been provided to the court. Many times, multiple pieces of evidence. I guess one way to look at this is there was a point in time when journalism was supposed to be backed up by evidence. A journalist was not supposed to just take someone's word for what transpired before they made a story public. Look where we're at now. This is not the case as many media outlets are quick to print without any factual investigations. When they don't have any repercussions not to, they can turn anything into factual by just saying so. Our courts do the same and allow statements by witnesses to become fact even though they haven't witnessed an act. They only need to be told by the party of the case and by that exchange it becomes truth. It is not hearsay at that point. Or, they can take a statement from a party in a case without regard to opposing evidence that proves the contrary. Perjury means nothing in civil court. The only time it will become a criminal matter is if that perjury was against our government. Then and only then will our government bring criminal charges. Don't believe me? Ask any attorney.

Here is the Guardian ad Litem temporary report. I'll give you a heads up. The State of Minnesota is recommending Amy to retain 100% legal and physical custody of our children. I need your help. I know it's a long read but I have a favor to ask of you at the end. So if you're willing to help, please do. I very much appreciate it!

The court report is in black while my comments are in blue.

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Well, I would disagree that the Guardian ad Litem has reviewed and considered all interest factors relating to child custody and best interests while serving on this court action. Proven when I asked to sit down and review all evidence in the case and she stated that she has already spent more time on my childrens case than she does on most and she didn't have time to do that. This evidence would have contradicted her opinions that were reasons for her recommendations. Again, our courts making decisions on only subjective testimonies and not spending time to investigate and understand by utilizing hard facts from evidence. I work in the construction industry and I can't imagining a building owner being okay with a trade just doing the bare minimum and not providing a complete project when the job is done. You would never say well I spent more time on your project than I have on most and just be done. The owner would be livid, there would be legal repercussions. Or in my case if I completed a project but did it half heartedly there could be safety issues as I'm in the fire protection industry. No, every trade is expected to do their job 100% and provide a complete functioning system / building. You take all the time that is needed to do it right so that when the job is done it is a safe usable space.

For some reason our government isn't required to operate this way. Doing something, but not everything has become acceptable. It's called bare minimum. I guess it comes from the fact that there are no repercussions for their decisions. I mean there are, but that only affects everyone else, such as abused children. Which proves that our government does as much to hurt our citizens as much as it does to help them. This is only one example out of many. To bad the construction of a building has more oversight to make sure it's done right than the decisions from our court. You would hope our courts would put in more effort, spend more time and have more oversight to make sure our families are safe and protected than they do. They don't.

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Correct, I petitioned the court requesting sole legal and sole physical custody of the kids until Amy gets the help she needs to treat her mental health. I started this process after being physically assaulted by her and her abducting our children. I started this process before she filed for an OFP on me.

The SENE temporary agreement by me was only due to the fact that I had no say in the matter and Amy as our children's mother has 100% control over my involvement. This is per the State of Minnesota since we are unmarried. This needs to change.

The supervised visitation is actually ordered as at least once per week for at least 90 minutes.

The anger management course is due to Amy's belief that whoever she is assaulting, either physically, emotionally or mentally should not be angry with her behavior. In any case I had no issue with her request so I attended a sixteen hour course versus the minimum required eight hours. One interesting thing I learned is that anger is a natural and normal emotion. I guess I knew that.

Since I asked her to take the psychological evaluation and she agreed I have to take one as well. Which I had no issue agreeing to.

I have to be alcohol free within 24 hours of my visitations with the kids. Hum. I wondered about this at first but realized there is a checklist of requests she could use and this was included. So of course she's going to throw everything she can at me and include it. I agreed as it is not a problem. It did work to her advantage though because having it included raised and eyebrow with the Guardian ad Litem as a red flag. I explained to her that in the beginning with the OFP case Amy could have included any type of treatment for me. See form.

Since she didn't and I don't have an issue I assume again, she's throwing everything she can at me now. It's also notable that she's on record for having a bac of .181% while I had a 0.00% during our only incident that included alcohol. Except for the time she was grabbing at the steering wheel while I was driving.

Interesting now that she wanted the addition that neither party speak negatively about the other party in front of the children when she's the only party on record at every visitation doing so. This is illegal and it's called parental alienation. She has a court order stating she's not allowed to. Yet, so far it's being allowed.

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Yes, my version backed up by police reports that three deputies showed up in the middle of the night after Amy lost it. They arrived, investigated, and took her away. They also followed up with a police report that was included in the OFP case and for this Guardian ad Litem stating that their final disposition was that Amy's allegation of assault was false / unfounded. This was determined by two male and one female deputies of the Sheriff's office. Amy's allegations were of me hitting her and pulling her hair out. Their investigation proved she had no injuries and no hair removed, plus her behavior during their time with her lead to them removing her and filing the report they did.

Here are those police reports:

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Correct, Amy assaulted me.

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The children didn't witness Amy hitting me as the bedroom door was closed. But they did end up coming into the bedroom right after when I had Amy restrained on the bed after hitting me. She was screaming bloody murder while I was holding her arms down and laying on her body to prevent her from hitting me again or injuring the kids. So, the kids witness me holding her but by her acting the way she did while screaming like I was stabbing her, obviously was scary for Delcan. He was upset but Sloane was not as she probably thought we were screwing around as we had been known to do.

To be 100% accurate, Amy had called me the next day and I was not at our RV. I arrived shortly after to find her and her brother attempting to move my motorcycle trailer out of the way and were going to take the RV. All while trespassing and ignoring law enforcement orders of taking the property matter to court. Amy lied in her court testimony and stated that was not what they were doing. The nice thing about Amy's attorney having all witnesses sequestered is her brother wasn't in the courtroom when she made this statement. When he testified, he was truthful and stated they had a tow truck on standby to come take the RV after they moved my motorcycle trailer out of the way. Again, the courts do not charge perjury for civil cases so it didn't matter that Amy lied in court after taking the oath that she wouldn't.

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She means Ms. Schmidt here but yes, I had the kids pretty much every day and yes, Amy had no worries before July 2nd when she took our kids. Our text message string this past year proves it as I had them, she's asking about them, and not one concern, every day.

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Well I am concerned about the coaching and parental alienation which has been documented over the course of our hearings. The first one was a video that Amy's attorney tried to admit into evidence of her coaching the kids. The referee in the hearing objected to it being introduced and actually had an exchange of words with Amy's attorney for him trying to enter it due to her clearly coaching them. For some reason Amy is covering the camera at first and it's just audio but eventually the video comes on.

I know it shouldn't be funny but since I don't get to see these kids I do find this video amusing. For one, it's just good to see and hear them and two, hearing Amy try to get the kids to say and do things while the other one, especially Sloane, is contradicting the other one cracks me up.

To help you understand standing at the wall, at times I would hold Declan against the wall and make him look at me when we're talking. Such as if he was acting out and/or hurt his mom or sister when he wasn't listening. I did this or had him sit on the stairs while I held his hands until he looked me in the eye and listened. As most know young kids try to change the subject or don't pay attention when getting a talking to. This was never to punish him. Only to make him stop and listen as it was usually after someone else got hurt. Mostly his little sister. It was also usually after telling him many times to stop whatever he was doing and him not doing so. This was the alleged child abuse that the court determined not to be the case. This is the alleged abuse that has kept my children from me for over seven months now.

Also, coaching and parental alienation has been recorded when I've visited my kids. Strange fact that Jordan who wrote this report actually witnessed it on our second visitation and her words were "it's concerning".

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Correct, I did say I would remove the kids from Amy if she doesn't get the help she needs as I will not allow them to be subjected to physical, emotional and mental abuse. If you read this as a whole which states that I do not want to take the kids from Amy and I do not want to take Amy away from the kids. I will do everything I can to protect the kids if their being abused. Such as seeking 100% full legal and physical custody of the children as I am, until Amy get's the help she needs. This Sounds a little better than how it's stated above. I've proven it since they were taken from me and I was falsely accused of domestic abuse and child abuse. I have done nothing but sought out every legal avenue.

I know she's making this out to sound bad on my behalf but I see it as the opposite and many agree. I have had woman that are strangers ask me my story when I'm at the courthouse. They have given me hugs while in tears stating that they wished the father of their children cared as much as me. This is the truth, I will not stop telling the truth, I will not stop fighting for these kids and I will not stop fighting for reform in our legal system that allows this to happen. If caring too much is wrong than I guess I am.

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And (not supposed to start a sentence with and) this is the problem with our court system. What if I hadn't gotten Amy to agree on our own to a psychological evaluation? Especially since I've asked the courts to require one so far and they have denied it. Where would this report go? How would it be concluded if there were no psychological evaluation? As I've stated several times, look at her behavior. She doesn't have to diagnose Amy, just review her behavior. I have so much evidence that I provided the courts including the Guardian ad Litem and asked if I could sit down with her and review it so she can understand what's going on and to answer any questions she may have. This is when she responded that she had spent more time on my childrens case than she has on others and that she didn't have the time to do so. So then, without investigating all evidence she would have no clue what is going on and would not be able to make a complete report based on Amy's behavior. She basically put the responsibility on the psychological evaluator but then includes the caveat that the evaluation isn't going to be the sole factor. Understood, but based on this report I already know what the final suggestion will be even if the psychological evaluation shows the worst. Right?!?! Plus I agree with her, a diagnosed mental health disorder isn't the problem. The behavior is the problem but it's being overlooked. So why wait for a diagnosis when the behavior is already the issue and apparent?

To answer her first statement that I was argumentative when she said she met with Amy and the kids and said she had no concerns. Yep. I was. I said how long were you with her and the kids? She said it was under two hours. I said, really, so you expected to find out everything that's going on with her and our kids in that much time. You don't think that she'll put her best foot forward when you're visiting? You don't think she'll do everything she can to not be found out? I even said Ted Bundy didn't murder people in front of other people. Right?!?!? A couple of hours and "no concerns". No questions I'm sure of why did you assault Ryan on July 2nd per the police report and your statements? No questioning, since the courts have concluded that Ryan is not a danger to his children why have you kept them apart? No questioning, why are you telling the kids not talk to their dad, not to play with him, not to hug him, etc when going to visitations? Were there any hard questions asked? Was she pressed for her behavior? Based on this report I would say, no. To be fair to Jordan, lets say she doesn't have the time available to complete a thorough report. Then there needs to be a change. There needs to be a way to take extra steps to make sure a thorough investigation is complete. This cannot be a one size fits all. No excuses. If this is the case I ask Jordan to speak out and help me with this change. If the status quo isn't good enough for you to perform your job 100% please speak out so we can get the resources for you to do it right. We have to stop going along with business as usual if it's not enough.

Here is an audio recording from Jordan (Guardian ad Litem) and myself after the second visitation with the kids. She attended because of the concern of parental alienation before visitations started as well as the documented alienation from the first visit. This report was written by her and she is in charge of making recommendations to the court regarding the kids. So her job is to represent the State of Minnesota in my children's child custody case and her sole responsibility is to be an advocate for the children. As you can see the State of Minnesota will make any and every excuse to allow child abuse to continue even after stating it's concerning and witnessing it first hand. This is a red flag to me. Isn't it for you? Also, per her statements regarding this child abuse (per Minnesota State law) does she even comment on this abuse in this report like she said she was going to? I don't see it anywhere. This audio proves there is abuse, proves the State of Minnesota is aware of it and proves from this recording to the date of this recommendation the State has done nothing to prevent it. In fact, the State of Minnesota has only made excuses. Fact.

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Correct, I have placed blame on this writer and everyone that is involved in our cases and in my children's best interest when it comes to safety. What I have learned after conversing with the State of Minnesota Governor's office, many State Senators and Representatives as well as our mental health departments within the State of Minnesota is there is no way for a third party such as myself to engage a mental health crisis department to intercept a possible life threatening situation when it comes to my children. Unless the other party is in the act of committing a crime or willingly accepts to receive help. Therefore, the only outcome for my children is I receive help from individuals or departments involved in overseeing my children's care or they are at worst case killed due to a mental health crisis. Therefore I have made everyone involved in my children's care and even those that are not but are responsible for the laws that govern their safely responsible for the outcome of their wellbeing. I don't know of any other way to go about it and if you have a problem with that you should put a little more effort into your ability to make sure my children are safe. I wouldn't be doing my job as a father if I wasn't doing all I can to shine a light on this issue and protect my children to the best of my ability. We are all responsible! It's accountability and we need more of it. Especially when children are involved.

To answer her statement, she is a decision maker as she makes recommendations to the court on the outcome of my children's care. Her recommendation in this report proves that the State of Minnesota does not have an understanding of mental health or what it takes to prevent childhood trauma from the abuse that causes it. No, you can't use not having a psychological evaluation as a crutch. You need to take into account the actions that are right in front of you. Per the previous audio recording it is proven that the State of Minnesota is unwilling to do so. So again, do better, prove me wrong, update your temporary recommendation and make your final and permanent recommendation in the best interest of my children. For their sake, please.

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We lived in Denver for 13 months. Correct, Denver were the first incidents of Amy acting out. The first time was when I had my two older children and was going to bring them back to their mothers. Rather than flying them back I was going to drive them as I had my motorcycle trailer and still had some items back in Minnesota that needed to be brought to Colorado. The day before we were to leave Amy started acting strange and was very upset. I had no idea what was going on and she would not tell me. As the evening went on she was screaming and acting out. This was the night before we were to leave but my only thought was I needed to get the kids out of here. So we packed up before we were supposed to and took off back to Minnesota. Amy was fine shortly after but it took me a long time to understand what had happened. She never told me but my assumption is, and this is after many years more of experience is, Amy always thought I would go back to my ex wife. She was upset that it would happen on that trip. I can only assume this was her trigger that time as everything was fine and we were having a good time with the kids. That trigger made her lose total control of her emotions.

Another time Amy being the good person she is, invited a guy she had just met that day in the apartment complex to hang out with us that night. We were going out for drinks at the bar next door. His fiance was out of town so he was alone that night and we didn't know many people in the area so we thought it would be fun. We spent hours with him and he seemed like a good guy. Once we were done and were leaving we walked out single file. Me, Amy and this guy, if I remember right his name was Chris. This was eight years ago. As we walk by the bar I hear a commotion behind me and as I turn Chris had run off. Amy's like he just grabbed my butt. She had turned to smack him off of her and when doing so he took off. I was pissed of course. Here Amy was nice enough to invite this guy out with us and he assaults her. As that night went on Amy again, lost it. But instead of filing a police report on this creep she is upset with me. She calls law enforcement stating I'm assaulting her. For the record and obvious common sense, I was never mad at her as that's ridiculous. I was mad at Chris but I was trying to get her to file a report against him. Telling her that he is going to continue to act this way until he is forced to stop and by her not reporting him, she is allowing it to continue to happen to others. She still wouldn't do it. Anyway, she calls law enforcement to report an assault on me and Denver police arrive and per Amy's testimony in court they told her to sleep it off. She also stated in testimony in another police report that the police officers told me they weren't going to arrest me because "she's a stupid bitch". Well, I'm not sure any police officer would go on the record saying that and I don't remember any such conversation. I just remember this incident flipped her switch again and she lost control of her emotions. Enough so that even law enforcement told her to sleep it off. If there was any sign of abuse by me they would have been all over it. Also, this is the event where in court we're looking at a picture of Amy's face after she explained that I hit her very hard in the side of the face. Her face was perfectly normal. She had a cut on her lip that she agreed was from her jacket zipper but nothing anywhere else. Nothing. We stared at this picture for minutes. After being caught in that lie she stuck with it. I was awestruck by it.

I have no idea what abuse Declan and S would have witnessed. Since Amy has picture and video evidence of everything she's been through since the beginning of our relationship you would think she would have this documented as well? To be honest, I think pregnancy and having the kids in the early years gave Amy a sense of family and commitment by me. I think her fears of me leaving her or whatever it was as she would switch between being okay and then shortly after being very insecure in our relationship went away for a long time. Like I've said before, for years after the kids she was okay and everything was really good.

Funny statement about me leaving her and the children for days at a time as I have this documented as well in our text messages. See attached text message string from two years ago. This is actually a great example of her losing her shit, telling me to leave, me leaving, her being upset I left, me coming back and nothing more being said. As you can read this one started again with her getting upset with getting Sl to take a nap. As you can read I didn't leave them stranded as I asked what she needed from the store before I was going to be farther away. As you can read she is the one that said she was done with me and that's why I left. All this and it always happened when I would be in the middle of a project that needed to be completed. So, for over these two days I'm dealing with this situation and working days straight without sleep. Plus I paid a ton of money for our resort location right on the ocean and then having to find another place for me to stay while she comes to terms with whatever is bothering her at that moment. Again, great example.

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Not so, in two different stints we traveled full time. One for two years before Declan was born and another for two years, one year after Sloane was born. We traveled the country all summer and spent the winters in South Florida or most recently in the Florida Keys. Comical. Yes, I requested the police reports and I submitted them into evidence as in all of them Amy was the aggressor, Amy was the one taken away, I was the one with injuries, and Amy was found to be filing a false report of assault. You would think that besides the facts that are included in the reports by trained law enforcement officers that do this for a living, a huge red flag would be I requested the reports and I submitted them to the courts and this Guardian ad Litem. Would I do that if what was included in the reports showed I was at fault? Why didn't Amy and her attorney request the reports and provide them for the courts?

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Including these statements in this report proves the State of Minnesota is so very gullible. Nope, never violated the OFP. On one occasion I arrived at one of Amy's friends house to ask her to help watch over Amy and the kids as I was worried what Amy might do to them once she realized I petitioned the court for full custody. I thought she might kill them and then take her own life. When I arrived I was about to pull in the driveway and Amy was there. I wasn't expecting that and when I saw her I drove past the driveway. She lived on a dead end road so I had to wait awhile until Amy finished walking back up the driveway to the house and then I drove back by as that was the only way to leave. Law enforcement was trying to arrest me for it but luckily Amy truthfully answered them when asked if I had been to that address before, she said yes, many times. They then asked her if I would have known she was there and she said no, I wouldn't have known she was there. This house was six miles from the address she has listed as her home. This is not an OFP violation. It has all been investigated.

The second time which she refers to above was outside of Grandma's restaurant in canal park Duluth, MN. I had just finished a late lunch with my oldest daughter Haven and both of my parents. I had a receipt that was submitted into evidence showing we were there for over an hour and a half before Amy arrived. The receipt is stamped with the in and out time of the order. When we left we found Amy standing in front of my / our truck. I say our because it was our vehicle for our whole relationship and at that point I had 273,000 miles on it from all the traveling we did. This was just as much her truck as mine which means she knew it very well. Plus it stands out as a black with chrome trim Chevy High Country 2500 with my fifth wheel hitch in the back. She knows this truck. Plus she just stood there staring at me while holding Declan in front of me. She had a blank none emotional look on her face. Kinda like, smug. While she was staring at me she was whispering in Declan's ear. He was also just staring at me. She then picked up her phone and called law enforcement to report an OFP violation on me. It took a lot of begging but I didn't get arrested even though they tried very hard to. When this was all investigated it was dropped by the county attorney's office. Besides the fact that Amy tried to set me up with a crime this is also additional proof that the State of Minnesota doesn't care about child abuse as Amy purposely placed Declan in front of me all the while I couldn't do anything. He witnessed his father not coming to see him, (after months) not giving him hugs and kisses, but saw me just stand there and not be there for him. Amy did that to him and Amy did that to me and the courts and the State do not care. Besides my testimony for this event I had three other witnesses.

I already included the recorded video and audio of her coaching the kids and their response from her doing that. Again, they haven't been with me since July 2nd, 2024 so the only place for them to get the information they're stating is from their Mom. Anyone that doesn't understand this is again, gullible.

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The referee actually did include the children in the final OFP. She stated that Amy's allegations of child abuse were false and removed them from the original emergency order for protection. She stated that my oldest daughter Haven's testimony plus evidence provided on the children proved there was no child abuse.

The judge did include Amy on the final OFP. She did so by stating that all evidence I provided proved Amy's testimony and refuted my testimony. So basically stated that Amy's testimony is what made it factual. In most recent hearings this same court stated that Amy's mental health has nothing to do with the OFP case. So again, the State of Minnesota has proven that hard evidence to the contrary of a person's statement means nothing to the court. Such as statements by law enforcement officers and even Amy's statements or actions made out of court that contradict her in court statements. I am also still fighting the OFP case as it's not over. But since it's out there still it carries more weight than anything. Another reason we need to change the system when it comes to orders for protection based on false allegations as they can affect so many other aspects of one's life.

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True, but it's not my version as stated before. I'm being transparent and including hard evidence to back up my statements. Whereas she has nothing to back up her statements.

Not slander.

Slander definition:

1: the utterance of false charges or misrepresentations which defame and damage another's reputation

2: a false and defamatory oral statement about a person

Not defamation.

Defamation definition:

1: the act of communicating false statements about a person that injure the reputation of that person

It appears the word "false" is the leading factor for slander and defamation. Since that is not the case as all my statements are backed up by hard evidence it is not slander or defamation.

Okay let's keep the dictionary open...

Kidnap definition:

1: to seize and detain or carry away by unlawful force or fraud and often with a demand for ransom

It appears that's an accurate statement as well. My children were taken from me after I was physically assaulted. That same person filed false domestic abuse allegations against me. That same person filed false child abuse allegations against me. That same person made false statements in a court of law against me. That same person by making false statements about me committed "fraud" when the court made an order based on those false allegations. That would all make it "unlawful". We could include the demand for ransom as Amy has been receiving public assistance since she took off with the kids. Now the State of Minnesota wants me to pay them back and start paying for Amy's costs. Again, after everything she has done. All of the above justifies the use of the term "kidnapped".

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Again, I have a court order that states I'm not an abuser but let's keep piling it on.

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Evidence provided including the previous included text message string from the past year shows I raised these kids. Nope, what I would say when she lost control of her emotions and acted out or physically assaulted me was that I would take the kids from her if she didn't get help for her past trauma. I don't need to make her look like a crazy person, her actions, her statements, police reports of her behavior and including all her actions / statements in these proceeding make her look the way she does. Because of her inability to control her emotions and the fact that she has physically assaulted me per law enforcement reports and the fact that she cannot control her behavior when dealing with the children makes me scared she is going to kill them or seriously injure them. It happens every day in this world. I just hope my children are saved from it before it's too late for them. I'm not trying to pin anyone against her and as I've stated in previous posts I'm not doing or saying anything to hurt Amy. I actually do care about her and my children's safety. I'm being 100% transparent with our cases to bring awareness to mental health and how our government doesn't understand it. Because of that the lives of innocent people including children are at risk or even taken every day.

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To be 100% honest I finally got Amy to agree to a psychological evaluation even after the courts refused to require her to do so. But by me requiring it of her I have undergo one myself which I didn't have an issue with. So no, she didn't get me to undergo one. It was the other way around as it's in our evaluation record that I asked for it. No, I have not harassed her and you would think if I was there would be proof. But nope, she can say this and the State includes it in their report and a reason for their decision. Yep, keep piling it on. She has never stated before this that she was worried about me taking the kids and she will never see them again. So now half a year later she adds another reason to keep the kids away from me and the State just goes along with it. Pathetic. I think that's illegal as well? Right? Punishment for a crime that the person might commit. I thought our Bill of Rights protected us from this?

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Just reading this paints the picture of her mental health. If you read this and don't understand, I don't know what to say. For the rest of you that understand it's simple. Stop fighting me, stop trying to get your kids back, leave us alone and be on your way is what she's saying. No you're not asking for help for your mental health and that's the problem. That's why I'm fighting you and fighting for our children. So both you and our children are safe.

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Not true as proven in evidence.

This incident happened on Friday December 6th. As you can see by the attached email I told Amy's attorney that I would contact her uncle the prior Monday December 2nd. Which I did and he agreed to. So yes, Amy's attorney knew about it and her uncle approved it. I'm not going to hit on this as I've gone over it in a previous post. What it came down to is I was bringing some furniture to Amy's uncle for Amy that she wanted and I agreed to provide for her. When I was halfway done unloading it her brother came out and attacked me. This is the mentality of this family. These are the people who are taking care of my children and making decisions for them and the State of Minnesota is allowing them to. Not sure what bombs she's talking about? Again, you would think she would have evidence of this if it were so but nope. She can just make statements without proof and that State just goes along with it.

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If this is true than it goes along with my conversation with recorded correspondence between the kids Guardian ad Litem and myself included earlier in this post. Amy has custody of these kids. I have a court order from the State of Minnesota that states I have never abused these kids and that Amy's statements of child abuse were false. I have seen them five times for one and a half hours each time in over seven months at a supervised visitation center. Supervised so they know what is being said to the kids. I am not doing this to them so that only leaves one other person that can be alienating them against me. Amy Schmidt. Why is that so difficult to understand? As I was arguing with the Guardian ad Litem in the audio file. This State has no idea how to prevent child abuse and by allowing it to happen they are supporting it. Fact.

Here is a letter from the visitation center stating they have had no issues with me visiting my children. So again, not coming from me. Only one other place it could be...

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Good thing there isn't any evidence of her coaching the kids or alienating them yet so you can take a four and three year olds word to heart. I love these kids and am sad for what Amy has done to them. I am angry with the state for allowing this to happen and again, supporting it.

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What's that word? Oh yeah, naive.

She spent less than two hours with them and has no concerns. A lifetime of trauma, piles of evidence showing behaviour problems, face to face with child abuse and all is good. No wonder why we have the issues we do.

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Does anybody else understand how this is not first hand proof that the State of Minnesota is witnessing parental alienation? Also, proof that there's more to Amy's issue as she is telling the kids that their grandma, grandpa and older siblings (Haven and William) were mean to them. Okay, so she bamboozled the courts into getting an OFP served on me but now she's including my parents and their older siblings. Now everyone is abusing them? How is this not a red flag for the courts and the State of Minnesota including this Guardian ad Litem? You don't need a diagnosis, you need to observe the behavior.

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Yep, this all adds up to keeping my children from me. I now understand why this report recommends Amy maintaining full custody while I still receive supervised visitation. Yep. I get it now.

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Correct, my goal as a parent isn't just to make sure a visitation was good. No, my goal as a parent is more than that. My goal is to make sure my kids are safe and free from trauma 24/7. Isn't that every parents goal? I think if anyone witnessed how my children were acting and the fear they have they would be concerned as well.

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Correct, I said I have family that is worried about how much of a toll this has taken on me. I don't think I would ever state that my children believed that I was prioritizing D and Sloane but I can see how they could think that. Yes, I pretty much said therapy is bs. What I told them is I don't need therapy, I need to know my children are safe. See, the State of Minnesota doesn't want to fix the problem. The problem that is right in front of them. They want me to receive treatment for them allowing my children being removed from me all the while suffering trauma and abuse. That is how they fix issues in Minnesota. Proven.

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Just keep piling on the bull shit... See it works. If anyone is ever placed in a situation in court, lie, lie, lie. It will only help you and no one can do anything about it. Because, when it's all said and done and you're found out all you have to say is well, that's what I thought or that's what I felt. Done. Nothing more will come of it. Lie for your benefit as I have only told the truth and look where that's gotten me.

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Correct, Amy received an OFP based on false allegations and the "court" a single referee (not a judge) said all evidence provided by me of Amy and her not being able to control her emotions only proves her testimony and refutes mine. I am still fighting this OFP at this time.

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Correct, I'm fighting all of this in court right now. We had a pretrial two weeks ago and due to new evidence and events that I cannot discuss right now. The prosecutor, myself and the Judge decided to have a continuance in this case and it was pushed two months out to allow time for the prosecutor to decide if they want to proceed or drop the charges. There is a lot of wording above but the reality is that only one allegation is being criminally charged here. The allegation of an emoji of the number 100 being sent to Amy. That's it.

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Correct, the State of Minnesota does not engage social services if a child is subjected to mental or emotional abuse even though these acts are illegal. They will only get involved if a child has been physically abused or in the process of being injured. So it comes down to the child has to be getting injured or been injured before they will step in. After the fact. I know this because of the many phone calls I've made and many conversations I've had with many organizations in the State. The only way around this is the person that would be committing the act on themselves or another would need to voluntarily ask for help. We do have services for that.

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This report wasn't read quite accurately. Yes, I called to report an assault on me. I had injuries to my face which were photographed. Amy claimed to have an injury on her leg. The police report states the injury "was not visible". The police report states that they asked Amy if she had any other injuries and she said "no, I don't think so". So the police did not have a photo of her injury because she did not have one. This was one complete day after the incident.

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This has already been covered. But no, this was not "her" address. It was a friends address. When I saw her in the driveway I continued down the road but since it was a dead end I waited a bit for her to get up the driveway to the house and drove back past. Yes, her brother was called by Amy, the same as at their uncle's house. He followed me for many miles but I didn't know who it was. For all I knew it could be anyone. Once I saw who it was I called him and asked him to stop and have a drink with me so we could talk as I was hoping he could help me with his sister. He refused. Yes, he is so sneaky as I did say "we all know where I've been tonight". I never denied it and told law enforcement what happened. They never pressed charges because Amy admitted to law enforcement that I've been to that address many times before and that I wouldn't know she was there. On top of it she was six miles from the address that is included on the OFP. This was in July, five whole months before this report was issued. Why is it included in this report and worded the way that it is? This has been investigated. But because it's included and worded the way that it is it impacts my custody case. It makes me sound like I'm out to get her...

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Well not 100% accurate but I've already hit on this as well. I never said I waved to Declan. As I was getting into my truck I put my hand up to my chest as "hi buddy". I hadn't seen him in almost two months. I did this while he was standing across from me and just staring at me. At the time I still had the OFP against the kids and by me doing that I was going to get arrested. I argued my way out of that but it took forever. So now looking back on this after having that OFP removed as the court found Amy's allegations of child abuse false. It actually shouldn't matter but again, it's included in this report and worded in such a way that hurts my child custody case. Plus there is no mention of child abuse on behalf of Amy for putting Declan in that situation. Just for me violating an OFP for walking out of a restaurant to my truck and finding Amy standing in front of it with my four year old son.

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Correct, this is why I had the Guardian ad Litem attend the second visit and again, more evidence of parental alienation. One thing to note about this statement is that Sloane was actually really good with me after a good half an hour. She would sit with me and let me hold her while we played. This never happened again afterwards in the next four visits. So my first visit with her started bad but went great. Then I don't see her for a week and she changed her tune. Well what could cause that? Obviously Declan told Amy everything Sloane was doing that she wasn't supposed to be. Right!?!? Then Amy got on her case for doing what she did. There is no other way to explain it as it wasn't me. I didn't have the kids... How is this not understood???

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Yep, spend a few minutes with Amy and "she does not appear to be unstable" and "nothing concerning". The State needs a diagnosis for mental health and will not make decisions against Amy based on her behavior. But they use all these tidbits of information from people that have spent very, very little time with her to make decisions in her favor. WTF.

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Yes, I banged a glass door in the bedroom in the incident when Amy physically assaulted me. The bedroom door was closed so the kids didn't see it. This was proven in court when Amy's attorney was adamant at one point that the door was open so the kids witnessed me holding down their mother after she assaulted me but then took a 180 and was adamant that I couldn't have heard the kids coming to the room after Amy assaulted me because the bedroom door was closed. Confusing right? But yes, the door was closed so the kids didn't see anything. For some reason Amy has focused on this glass door and is telling the kids about it. I'm not 100% sure why but it is my belief that it was a trigger for Amy and she cannot stop focusing on it.

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Correct, as provided in audio recordings Declan says "mom told us not to play with you" or "mom said not to talk to you" etc. Parental alienation.

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I would agree, "clear pattern".

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I stated the crime was preventable but if you read the article and realized that Dakota County in Minnesota settled with the murdered child's father due to the fact that the State of Minnesota should have never given custody of the child to the mother, that would indicate the crime was preventable as well.

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Correct, I saw this as my last attempt before moving forward with the lawsuit against Amy to gain custody of my children. I threw one last hail Mary hoping she would end this. She had nothing to say after reading it.

Here it is:

I did send that book to Amy's attorney because I thought a young attorney should have an understanding about mental health if they were to be representing the public. Especially borderline personality disorder. It's a good read if you want to understand it. It helps make sense of everything that is going on here.

Here it is on Audible:

audible

Here it is on Amazon:

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Correct, these are my court case files.

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Correct, as already stated in this post. The first email string between her attorney and me she states her uncle has mental health issues. In the police report between her and her mother she states her mother has a undiagnosed mental health disorder. She can dish it out to her family but has a problem accepting it upon herself.

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Correct, I said that to Amy's brother. By the time this is all said and done their family will be found out and they will never see these kids again. Reason being, I will not allow my children to be subjected to the violent physical, mental and emotional abuse that controls them. They have all proven unworthy of my children and unsafe for them as well. There is no law against keeping children away from their extended family. Especially when their safety, mental and emotional well being is at stake.

Again, I had messaged Amy's attorney that I was going to contact Amy's uncle to ask if he'll help us with the exchange. Four days prior. This is Amy's uncle, her family, not mine. These are items that she wanted, not me. I went out of my way to accomplish this while I was in Duluth that day. I went to her uncle's home to ask him if he would help us and he said yes, for me to put the items in his garage. I then had to go get the items out of storage because I didn't have them with me as I wanted to get his approval first. Which I did as Amy's uncle said yes, it's okay. When I returned and was halfway unloaded Amy's brother came out and attacked me and was trying to get me to hit him. As you can hear in the audio recording that the Guardian ad Litem has heard. I also have it recorded but am not providing it due to its criminal ties in an investigation.

Here is a picture of my leg from the incident. This is only one of several injuries:

The Guardian ad Litem is making statements without having all the information including my recordings that include audio with law enforcement. When the officer called me when I was almost back to Amy's uncles house she said I shouldn't go there because Amy's brother was there. I was very confused because he shouldn't have been there, as he's never there. He does not visit this uncle ever. I know because Amy and I would visit Amy's uncle and he would state every time that he never comes over and they don't know the last time they saw him. Also, during my phone conversation with the officer she was confused because she thought that I didn't have permission to be there. But when I told her I had spoken to Amy's uncle just before and he said yes, it was okay. She didn't know that at first.

I did not say that I didn't care about what law enforcement was saying, what I said was, I didn't care that Amy's brother was there. When I was questioned why would I still go there if he was there I said I wasn't worried about him. If you saw the guy you would realize why. I told law enforcement that just because he says I can't be there doesn't mean I'm not going to complete what was agreed to as he had nothing to do with it. What I didn't realize at this time was that Amy's uncle called Amy to tell her what we were doing, she then called her brother to go there and confront me.

The main point here is these were items that Amy supposedly wants and here I am going out of my way to give them to her. Mind you, four days after telling her attorney exactly what I was going to do. She then goes out of her way to prevent me from doing so. Look what transpired. For what? How can the State not see the mental health issue in not only Amy but her family. Again, these are the people that have my children in their care.

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True, I have stood outside the Duluth courthouse and Safe Haven across the street with a sign stating this as I'm getting as loud as I can. I have met many people asking my story and offering to help. I have heard so many similar stories that at times it's very discouraging but then it also makes me realize someone needs to fight this fight so here I am. How else do you get your story out there and make the public aware of injustices in our system if you don't put yourself out there. Mind you, I have every legal right to do so. As this is included in this report am I to assume the State of Minnesota has an issue with me exercising my legal rights?

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Based on these comments everything that was reviewed and witnessed caused this writer, the Guardian ad Litem to determine Amy should continue to have 100% physical and legal custody of our children. I don't understand...

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Should be a red flag for the State, Amy has alienated the entire family including Grandma and Grandpa but nope, it isn't.

One thing to point out is that I asked the Guardian ad Litem to not contact my mother for this interview as I had just gained knowledge of one of Amy's very good friends speaking out against her. When I talked to the Guardian ad Litem about this and asked how much weight my mother's testimony would be compared to one of Amy's friends she stated that my mother's testimony wouldn't carry as much weight. I told her don't call her and let me get in touch with Amy's friend. I found out before I was able to get in touch with Amy's friend that the Guardian ad Litem already spoke to my mother. She said she forgot. Okay, but the testimony from Amy's friend was "I feel so bad for Ryan" and "I've spent years listening to Amy complain about her mother and here she is acting just like her". I know that interview would have carried a lot of weight with the courts.

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Statements Haven makes here reminds me of times when Amy would get upset with me and I'd have to help her through it. Such as, most times we would sit down as a family and I had two kids on my lap and she wouldn't have any. She would get upset and I would have to reassure her that earlier the kids had asked about her. This seemed to make her feel better about it and it would snap her back out of it. I went from two kids on my lap to two kids telling me I'm bad overnight and I wasn't even around them to change that. WTF

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This is another great point that should be a red flag for the State. Amy cut off two of her step children that were in her life for a very long time. Amy would call herself their bonus mom. She was around for half of their lives and the half of their lives that actually matters as they wouldn't remember their younger years. Right?!?!? Beyond that she has separated these siblings as she's not allowing Haven and William to see Declan and Slone. Why? Why are Declan and Sloane saying that Amy is saying that Haven and William bad? In the OFP case this was never mentioned and there was no evidence provided. But now, again, adding more to the pile.

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So this is Amy's friend from when they were kids. They lost touch for 10 - 15 years but started hanging out again while Amy and I were together. Maybe six years ago as it was after we left Colorado.

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This isn't saying much. Did the Guardian ad Litem do a background check on this interviewee and/or does she know her history? I assume not. Let's see, a simple background check would provide her with several drug and alcohol convictions. The most concerning one for me is when she was facing drug charges while living in Florida her mother bailed her out of jail. She then traveled back to Minnesota and wiggled her way into not having to attend court in person because she was along too far with her pregnancy. So yeah, I would assume someone that is pregnant and facing drug charges would trust someone else to watch her children. Because most anyone else would be better to do it.

Amy also shared stories of their childhood together. Such as parties at Ms. Ciaccio's home as teenagers and Ms. Ciaccio's mother offering cocaine to them.

When interviewing others in the Schmidt family Ms. Ciaccio's past history with drug use was brought up without being questioned about it.

Ms. Ciaccio does have three children of her own by three different fathers. I'm not trying to bash the fact of three different fathers but she goes out of her way to find the worst kind of person to father her children. These ghetto men are not involved in their children's lives and do nothing to support her. They can't. Because they can't even support themselves. These are her life choices. Fine. It does not affect me until it does. So now this person is interviewed and her statements are affecting me. My only way to provide a weight to her statements is to tell the truth. My life will not be directed by lifes lowest common denominator. It seems our nation is okay with this, I am not.

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Ms. Ciaccio was one of Amy's witnesses in the OFP case. In cross examination she was questioned on the stand and asked, have you ever witnessed Ryan being anything other than loving to Amy or his children and she honestly answered, no. This is in the court record. Now she is piling it on. Humm, I wonder if Amy and her talked about this?!?! How can you go from making that statement in court and then making a complete 180 not long after? How can the State use testimony such as this in their decision making? Especially since they have both conflicting statements right in front of them.

Ms. Ciaccio had stated on the witness stand that Amy had told her for years that she was being abused by me. When she was questioned in cross examination she was asked in all those years did she ever confront me and she stated no. She was asked if she cared about Amy and she said yes. She was then asked if she cared about Amy and was being told she was being abused by me why didn't she say or do anything and she answered that it wasn't her place to do so. She admitted that she would have me over to her home and we would see each other throughout the years. She never once confronted me, or acted like there was an issue. In fact she admitted that she was always kind to me and gave me hugs when we met or left. So she either didn't believe Amy or did, and didn't do anything about her best friends alleged abuse. I think this shows a bigger problem in our society. Your best friend is reaching out to you because of alleged abuse and you do nothing. WTF. We live in a sick world full of weak people.

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You have to remember "normal" in their family isn't acceptable to most. Including mine.

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How can the State include statements such as this in this report, "flashed a knife at him". Amy's brother is referring to the incident at their uncle's house in which I already covered. Since this whole situation started back in July I have been recording everything including this incident. That was a cold day and I had my jacket on. My audio recorder was sticking out of my pocket and at one point got caught on my jacket. I struggled to free it from my jacket so I lifted my jacket over it. As I did Amy's brother made a comment like "I just saw that" or something like that and I was like oh, okay. Thinking I don't care that you saw I'm recording this. Now he says I flashed a knife at him? I have never carried a knife in my life and since law enforcement was onsite don't you think he would have mentioned this to them? Don't you think they would have searched me as me carrying a knife and flashing it at him is a threat. But nope, pile it on and include it in this report without investigating it.

What psychotic rage is he speaking of? Is he referring to the time he was caught trespassing after law enforcement told him not to? When he was caught trying to move my motorcycle trailer out of the way to steal my fifth wheel? Is he talking about when Amy stated in court that they weren't there to take it but then Mr. Schmidt admitted in cross examination that they had a tow truck on standby to take it? Or the time he showed up at his uncle's house when I was unloading some furniture for Amy and he attacked me? Those are the only two times we had a disagreement and in those two times I spoke to him. I was never physical. He was. He is the one trying to get me to hit him. It's all recorded and this Guardian ad Litem heard it. His defence in court for him acting the way he did is because he said "I wanted to hit him". Yep, again, despite our bill of rights it becomes a factual statement in court that because Mr. Schmidt states that I wanted to hit him without, doing so, making motion to, stating so, but because of his belief that I wanted to hit him it becomes fact. WTF

If I get custody of the kids I'll take them and disappear? Again, piling it on. Or maybe he's confused. Maybe he is referring to the fact that's what Amy did with support of the State of Minnesota. Right?!?! He's worried about me doing exactly what his sister did. How does that make sense?

What rules am I not following? I'm petitioning the court for custody of my children. Everything I have done I have a legal right to do so. I am following every rule.

Again, my life and my family is having restrictions placed on it based on testimony from this individual. The sad thing is again the court is taking testimony from the lowest common denominator. I have a few stories I'd like to share about this witness.

Amy told me a story about the time years ago as an adult she bought a new car. She was living on her own and she was happy with her new purchase. For some reason her mother was not. She was upset that Amy had this car and decided to take it from her. This is her mothers action against an adult child. Amy's mother enlisted Mr. Schmidt, Amy's brother to help do so. So they did. The two of them stole Amy's car and Amy had to fight to get it back. Nice family huh? This is Amy's family... This is Amy's brother.

The last time I spent time with Amy's brother, Mr. Schmidt was in June of 2024. We were over at their house hanging out as we would do from time to time. We were outside and the kids were playing with the water table and Mr. Schmidt's daughter Hazel had done something Mr. Schmidt didn't like so he hit her over the head with his hand. I was taken back by it as I thought it was out of line and totally rude of him to do. Especially since she was only six years old at the time. This is his own flesh and blood. Although he does treat her better than he does his significant other Kelly's son Dom. I would have to sum up their relationship as Dom is the red headed step child. In almost nine years I have never witnessed Mr. Schmidt showing any act of love or respect for Dom. I have never seen him hug him or give him any form of affection. In fact, it seems that whenever Dom speaks Mr. Schmidt is quick to interject and put him down. I cannot think of a time when Dom has made a statement without Mr. Schmidt interjecting or putting him down in some way. I'm sure the kid feels like he cannot do or say anything right and I have always felt bad for him. I'm sure being raised like that has had an affect on him. I have had these conversations with Amy over the years and she admits by stating, "my brother is an asshole". I know many would agree but the sad truth is him growing up in the same environment that Amy did most likely caused him childhood trauma as well. How could it not have.

Mr. Schmidt and Kelly lost their right to be an uncle and aunt to my kids. An uncle and aunt's job is to help protect their family and support them. From July 2nd, 2024 to today they have not done that. In fact, they have gone out of their way to help destroy our family and allow these kids to be subjected to additional trauma and abuse. Even after my several attempts at reaching out to Mr. Schmidt to no avail. I will never forgive him or Kelly for their actions. I will also never forget me removing all of my belongings from my home while being escorted by law enforcement. I was given a couple of hours to do so all the while I had Kelly making snide comments and looking over my shoulder making sure I wasn't stealing anything. Stealing my own belongings, or belongings I paid for, for my family. All the while I was going out of my way to make sure Amy had everything she needed to take care of herself and our children. That family has no place in my children's future and my children will be better off for it.

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I'm not worried about us co-parenting at this point. I'm worried about my children's safety.

No, no, no.

Per all evidence and statements in court Declan and Sloane have never witnessed domestic abuse. They didn't witness Amy physically assaulting me because the bedroom door was shut. Fact in court statements. When they did come into the bedroom they witnessed me holding Amy. Fact in court statements. No witnessing of domestic abuse.

Per a State of Minnesota court order the State found Amy's allegations of child abuse to be false and the children were removed in the final order. The State cannot state there is no child abuse in one instance and then turn around and state there is because at one time, before the allegations were proven false it was alleged that there was. Can't do it. You have to stop and move forward as this has been decided in court.

I have the legal right to protect my family and provide evidence that the State of Minnesota is not able to properly handle cases that deal with mental health. I also have the legal right to provide the public their own public record.

Yes, if she continues to traumatize these children and refuses to get help I am going to do whatever I can to protect them. If that includes getting full custody of them from the court, that means the court would have to agree that it is in the best interest of the children. As I've said from the beginning and every chance since. We would move forward until Amy gets the help she needs and custody would change based on her ability to parent our children. These decisions are not solely mine as I cannot make them myself. I can only request what is in the best interest of the kids and the court would have to agree.

It's pretty sad that at this point in the report "allegations" is included with coaching the children. It is clear, it has been proven, it has been witnessed by the writer of this report and included by several others to be true. Including the third party visitation center. I have not had these kids since July 2nd, 2024 therefore there is only one other source for the coaching / parental alienation. It should be very easy to understand.

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Nope, Amy states that to be true but again, court evidence proves these children have never witnessed domestic violence.

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Not 100% accurate. In July 2024 I was physically assaulted by Amy, I called law enforcement and reported an assault on me per all court evidence. Amy was not assaulted, and Amy did not call law enforcement as recorded in all court evidence. At that time I told Amy I would be petitioning custody of the children which I did. Per all court evidence I started this process on July 5th with documents dated July 5th and 6th in the record. Amy then requested an emergency OFP on July 10th based on false allegations which was approved by the court on July 12th. This approval was by the court taking her word for it without any investigation into the alleged allegations. Including false statements of prior domestic abuse convictions and that law enforcement wasn't called for the most recent incident. The incident where she physically assaulted me and I called to report it. I'll spell it out. Amy is in the wrong, she doesn't want to be found out, she doesn't want to lose her kids and she will do anything and everything to make sure that doesn't happen. Proven with every word out of her mouth and every action she has taken since July 2024. How do I know this? Because I've never assaulted anyone, including Amy. How should you know this? Investigate, read the court evidence, police reports from law enforcement, etc. It's not hard to understand. Do you wonder why I'm worried about the safety of my children and Amy. Look at what she's doing! Look at what she's capable of! What will she do if she feels like she has nowhere to go?!?!?

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Not 100% accurate. As Ms. Brunette stated every visit the kids run and hide from me and make concerning comments. As time goes on the wall breaks down and by the end of the visit the kids are good and don't want to leave. This is every visit. There is a big difference between the two statements because if you don't state it accurately the report doesn'ts prove the parental alienation that is going on every week.

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Well I could say she's fucking crazy but that wouldn't be as acceptable. Right?!?! Why am I getting loud before this is all said and done in court? Because my children's safety cannot wait that long. Also, I've been publicly facing allegations of domestic abuse and child abuse. I have a right to publicly defend myself. I have many friends, family members, customers, etc. How would it look if I didn't defend myself? What would happen if I suddenly died tomorrow and had never publicly defended myself and waited for the court process to play out? No one would know the truth! The truth being the kids are not safe and Amy needs help. No matter if I'm alive or dead. That fact does not change. Also, what this reporter must not understand is, I'm not the kind of person to just go along with an injustice. When needed I'll be the first to stand up for myself, my family or anyone else needing my help. Including the writer of this report. If you need help, I'll be there. Maybe then she'll understand.

What I don't understand is why a lifetime of trauma including extreme childhood trauma is not a red flag for the State of Minnesota? Yes, because that's how mental health disorders work. Generally resulting from past trauma, especially past childhood trauma. Then there's behavior based on their mental health disorder that is usually pretty evident and specific. That's how someone gets diagnosed with a disorder. That's why I'm so vocal on understanding mental health. That's why I have pushed for the courts to require Amy to undergo a psychological evaluation.

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Anyone can interpret something different. I'll give you an exercise. Contact the St. Louis County Courthouse Administrative office and ask a question. Then call back throughout the day and speak to three different people. By the end of the day you'll have four different answers. Guaranteed.

Well, it's a fact that when someone has an untreated mental health disorder and refuses to get help for it there is a higher chance of them harming themselves or others. It's proven every day on the news including in the State of Minnesota. Our own government tells us, if you see something, say something. How do I know there's and issue? Based on nine years of knowing Amy. Based on our interactions. Based on her not being able to control her emotions. Based on her screaming at a two year old to take a nap. Based on her falsely accusing me of domestic abuse. Based on her falsely accusing me of child abuse. Based on her alienating the kids. Based on police reports where I'm not even involved between Amy and her mother, her mother acting out, acting the same way Amy does now and Amy stating to the police her mother needs help and that she has an undiagnosed mental health disorder. Amy's mother saying that every time Amy comes over she causes problems and that she stated her last two relationships had ended and they were trying to kill her. This is not all from me. Many know there are issues. Many reports and statements prove it. The problem is no one is listening.

Here's a copy of that report even tho you already have it:

Talking about piling it on. Amy is worried that I will kill the kids? Blame her and tell the world, I told you so? What? All I can say is holy shit. That's a new one.

Clearly the Guardian ad Litem has zero understanding of what is going on and has no interest in protecting my children. It's obvious in this paragraph. Yep, I agree, every person involved in this case who have spent a total of minutes to the most hours working this case has it figured out. If there was an issue someone would have removed these kids from Amy's care. Right!?!? Wow. FML

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No, at this point if Amy is unwilling to get help for herself I am not willing to co-parent. That is why she needs to get help, get better and then we can move forward. I will not subject my children to this weekly tug of war of trauma which is what they're experiencing. Once she is healthy and understands how her actions affects these kids and makes an honest attempt at being a healthy parent, then I will co-parent as I have proven I'm able to do.

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I agree, a mental health diagnosis should not be the reason for a change in custody. Her behavior, the safety of the children and her illegal actions should be the determining factor. I've been saying this all along. Especially to the writer of this report. So again, the State of Minnesota is requiring one action (a mental health diagnosis before doing anything), then stating a mental health diagnosis will not determine the case. Correct, her behavior is the issue and should be the determining factor. But for some reason it isn't. Make up your mind. Also, I should respect the process and respect the outcome? How the hell am I not? Because of me she is having to perform a psychological evaluation. This is my doing so therefore I obviously want it and respect its place in our case. I made this happen. Not the State of Minnesota. I asked the courts several times to require it and they wouldn't. Most recently stating that mental health has nothing to do with my case. But by how this is worded it's stating that somehow I'm against it already, before it's even happened. What I don't respect is bureaucratic process when it comes to mental health and the courts. I should not have to fight my government this hard to protect my family. Period.

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Wow, so based on the fact per all court evidence that I have never abused my children and they have never witnessed abuse, the Guardian ad Litem states Declan should start individual therapy. Okay, yeah, that's good. Right? Why does he need that therapy as he is in the care of his mother? There wouldn't be a need for therapy due to a transitional period if his mother was not abusing him per State of Minnesota law. Right? How is that not understood? I'm honestly glad there is someone else looking out for Declan and hopefully that'll help. I just don't understand why the state says a child needs therapy for what they're going through but allows the child to remain in that environment. The same environment that is causing the trauma. Especially when there are other options that have been found to be safe by the same state court. Such as his father's care. Another note to add. When I was having a conversation with the Guardian ad Litem at the visitation center and I was expressing my concerns regarding the child abuse. She warned me that if I pushed too much and it was found out that the children were to be removed from their mothers care that they would be placed in foster care. I was like what? I have a recognition of parentage from the State of Minnesota and a court order that says the State has no issue with me being their father and you would have the kids placed in foster care? WTF Does this make sense to anyone? Do you realize why this is a nightmare I cannot wake up from? I do not understand?

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How do you feel by having your children illegally removed from your care? How do you feel that your children have been traumatized? How do you feel that the State of Minnesota supports this behavior? Not good. Okay, let's work on making you feel better about this. WTF

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Like I said in the beginning of this post, this is only the temporary recommendation and I know anything and everything I state in this post will affect the final recommendation but really? At this point what is the use? If this is the recommendation based on everything that has been provided and witnessed we already know what the recommendation will be. I have never read such a biased report based on nothing factual. It includes clear definitions of child abuse per the State of Minnesota but ignored and excused. There is no reason this temporary recommendation doesn't at least include shared custody of these children such as 50/50 or worst 70/30. But to recommend continued supervised visitation for no factual basis is not okay. If this court is about bringing families together, supporting parenting time and preventing child abuse this report does not show it. Oh yeah, and I have to solely pay for this reporting. This is costing me $750.00. Do you understand why I post this stuff? I'm hoping at some point someone will come along and say bull shit and help me out. Someone that can actually make a difference. I'm also working with every level of legislation. Our laws need to change because this is not okay. Our courts also need to change because some of these actions are already covered in State law but no one does anything about it. We have laws but they're not enforced.

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I would strongly request that this Guardian ad Litem review this report, review the facts, review state law and ask questions if you have any. Then rewrite this temporary recommendation to what's in the best interest of the children. Please.

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I am asking for your help. As you can see the Guardian ad Litem reserves the right to amend and/or supplement this report if any new or additional information becomes available. I would ask that you please help and provide your input in this recommendation. As most of you know me and my family. You know I was raised in a very different way than the Schmidt family. I grew up in a very different environment. I had zero trauma in my upbringing. I am the oldest of four boys. I attended Homecroft Elementary, Woodland Junior High and graduated from Duluth Central High School. We attended Sunday School where we were members of St. John's Catholic Church in the Woodland neighborhood. I was an alter boy when I was young, then played guitar in the youth group band and the main church band. Myself and all my brothers attained the rank of Eagle Scout in Troop 7 in Duluth, MN. This after a childhood of scouting, starting with Cub Scouts in Pack 7. Our family's time was focused on sports, music, hunting/fishing and spending time with our large extended family. Lots of weekly get togethers on Sunday's, camping trips and family events, etc. Our family was focused on support and love which made me who I am today.

We have had bad times in my life as well. Which any family can have, especially a large family with so many members. We've had unexpected losses. Such as losing my brother Josh to suicide when he was eighteen years old. Cancer, heart attacks, auto, domestic violence, etc. has been a factor. I think by now we've experienced it all. But even so, there is an upside, it has brought us closer together.

I'm hoping that with help from my family, friends and anyone willing to help me we can get this temporary order changed. Tell her your experience with me as a father. Tell her your experience with me as a person. Tell her what you think should be recommended. Remember, the Guardian ad Litem's responsibility is to recommend what's in the best interest of the children. Tell her what you would recommend for them. If you could also help me by getting others involved in my story that would be beneficial as well. I'm not only trying to help my family but change our broken system so that others don't have to go though this as well.

Hell, maybe you think this recommendation is acceptable. Maybe you think it should be more restrictive. Maybe you have experiences with Amy you would like to add or help Amy keep custody of the kids. Let the Guardian ad Litem know your thoughts. I just ask that if anyone has any recommendations to please reach out to her and do so.

There was a time in history when community had an involvement in our decisions. I think we can get back to that if I could get your help.

Please contact the Guardian ad Litem, JordanMae Dokken at jordanmae.dokken@courts.state.mn.us and copy my attorney's law firm at karla@johnsonturner.com . Karla Lien is the senior paralegal for my custody case at Johnson Turner. Please include your name and contact information so they can get in touch with you if they have follow up questions. (redaction - my attorney is no longer involved)

Thank you for your support for myself and my family. It's been over seven months, please help me end this.

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