Guardian ad Litem Family Court Report (Temporary)
- Ryan Alvar
- Feb 12
- 99 min read
We received the temporary Guardian ad Litem court recommendation a month ago but I have been holding off on mentioning it as the case has evolved some since. This post is going to hit on most of it but not all of it, as it is ongoing and I don't want me providing information at this point to cause issues with my other cases.
A Guardian ad Litem is a court appointed guardian for the children. Their purpose is to investigate a case and recommend to the court what's in the best interest for the children. This process is specifically for my child custody case against Amy.
This is a temporary report meaning she is holding off on making a final recommendation to the court until the psychological evaluation is complete and/or she receives additional information that would change her recommendation.
I understand my statements made here and previous statements could be used against me as again, this is only a temporary report and she has yet to make it final. I knowinging make these statements only to provide a record of our broken court system when it comes to understanding mental health, false allegations of domestic abuse, false allegations of child abuse and how our government has no idea how to identify or judge it even when all evidence proves it. By this action our government allows domestic violence and child abuse to continue. Proven. There is no other way to explain it. I also believe in candor when it comes to important aspects of our lives. In Relationships, business, politics and especially our government, it is important to maintain candor. Without it there are no open and honest discussions. We need that to make change for the better. So yes, everytime I state something I create risk, but understand I outweigh that fact for positive change in the future. I would also go as far as saying if we live in a society that would condemn me for making a change for the better. I would want no part of it. I think most would agree.
I also have every level of our legislature informed of my case and by me providing a record for them to follow, I'm hoping that my injustice will gain traction so that our laws are changed and no other family has to go through this. We can stop intergenerational abuse. We just need to change our laws so rather than fighting our government for our families safety we can work together to make it happen. Imagine what we could accomplish if we could focus all our energy on that.
We would have safe loving families that could provide a home that all children deserve to grow up in. In turn we would end intergenerational abuse so that their children would never know trauma.
I also have a legal right to provide this information as all court cases are public record unless sealed by the court. To be fair, I have already provided all information on each case from both sides to be fully transparent. Nothing I have shared is one sided except for my statements / opinions. I only give those statements / opinions to provide insight into these cases. I have already provided all the hard evidence in previous posts to provide a link between those statements / opinions and hard facts. Which in turn makes my statements / opinions factual and not subjective.
For example: When there is a statement of domestic abuse against me on Amy and I say it never happened. See 73 - 2024 07 03 #24092134_Police Report to see where law enforcement says I had injuries but Amy didn't have any visible. She was questioned if she had any additional injuries besides the injury that wasn't visible and she says no, I don't think so. This, a day after the event that I called law enforcement and she didn't. Red Flag! Also see Amy's request for an OFP that states the opposite, that I assaulted her which contradicts the police report. See her statement in the request for an OFP where she states law enforcement wasn't called for the event, which contradicts the police report where it says I called to report an assault on me. See what I'm saying. My statements mean nothing without being followed up by hard evidence. When this is accomplished my statements are credible, actually just plain factual. The sad thing is our system is set up to allow our courts to make arbitrary decisions without utilizing these facts and a person's word can be taken as fact without even using their own words against them. Such as Amy's statement in the police report that she hit me and afterwards I restrained her by holding her down, an audio recording that was played in court that I say "you hit me" she says, "I know I did, I hit you fucking hard" when she split my face open as proven by police records and photographs. Amy's additional statements in court when she admits to hitting me, she admits to me grabbing her arms to hold her on the bed to restrain after her hitting me. When asked if after she hit me, did I hit her back she states "no". Therefore proof, she was the aggressor, physically violent, and I defended myself by restraining her as I have a legal right to do. This act is not abuse by me. In fact it's the opposite. It's abuse by her.
Every single statement I make and every single opinion I give is backed up by at least one piece of evidence that has been provided to the court. Many times, multiple pieces of evidence. I guess one way to look at this is there was a point in time when journalism was supposed to be backed up by evidence. A journalist was not supposed to just take someone's word for what transpired before they made a story public. Look where we're at now. This is not the case as many media outlets are quick to print without any factual investigations. When they don't have any repercussions not to, they can turn anything into factual by just saying so. Our courts do the same and allow statements by witnesses to become fact even though they haven't witnessed an act. They only need to be told by the party of the case and by that exchange it becomes truth. It is not hearsay at that point. Or, they can take a statement from a party in a case without regard to opposing evidence that proves the contrary. Perjury means nothing in civil court. The only time it will become a criminal matter is if that perjury was against our government. Then and only then will our government bring criminal charges. Don't believe me? Ask any attorney.
Here is the Guardian ad Litem temporary report. I'll give you a heads up. The State of Minnesota is recommending Amy to retain 100% legal and physical custody of our children. I need your help. I know it's a long read but I have a favor to ask of you at the end. So if you're willing to help, please do. I very much appreciate it!
The court report is in black while my comments are in blue.
STATE OF MINNESOTA
County of St. Louis
Sixth Judicial District
DISTRICT COURT
FAMILY COURT DIVISION
Guardian ad Litem Family Court Report
Court File Number(s): 69DU-FA-24-551
Ryan William Alvar
Petitioner,
and
Amy Jo Schmidt
Respondent.
Date of Report: January 2, 2025
Guardian ad Litem: JordanMae Dokken
Date of Hearing: February 28, 2025
Date of Appointment: October 3, 2024
Type of Hearing: Pre-Trial
Date of Appointment Expiration: April 3, 2025
Children
Sloane Amy Alvar, 07/07/2021, Declan Ryan Alvar, 02/04/2020
Parents/Guardians
Ryan William Alvar, father
Amy Jo Schmidt, mother
Guardian ad Litem Appointment Authority
Pursuant to MN Statute 518.17 (or relevant statute) the Court issued an order requesting a guardian ad litem be appointed to advocate for the best interests of the children named above. Said guardian ad litem has met all of the requirements set forth by Minnesota State Statute and Rules pertaining to family court matters and has reviewed and considered all interest factors relating to child custody and best interests while serving on this court action.
On October 3, 2024, the Court requested the appointment of a Guardian ad Litem with a request for recommendations regarding temporary and permanent custody of the minor children and recommendations regarding temporary and permanent parenting time. The Court also requested the Guardian ad Litem to make recommendations whether the children require counseling or other services.
Well, I would disagree that the Guardian ad Litem has reviewed and considered all interest factors relating to child custody and best interests while serving on this court action. Proven when I asked to sit down and review all evidence in the case and she stated that she has already spent more time on my childrens case than she does on most and she didn't have time to do that. This evidence would have contradicted her opinions that were reasons for her recommendations. Again, our courts making decisions on only subjective testimonies and not spending time to investigate and understand by utilizing hard facts from evidence. I work in the construction industry and I can't imagining a building owner being okay with a trade just doing the bare minimum and not providing a complete project when the job is done. You would never say well I spent more time on your project than I have on most and just be done. The owner would be livid, there would be legal repercussions. Or in my case if I completed a project but did it half heartedly there could be safety issues as I'm in the fire protection industry. No, every trade is expected to do their job 100% and provide a complete functioning system / building. You take all the time that is needed to do it right so that when the job is done it is a safe usable space.
For some reason our government isn't required to operate this way. Doing something, but not everything has become acceptable. It's called bare minimum. I guess it comes from the fact that there are no repercussions for their decisions. I mean there are, but that only affects everyone else, such as abused children. Which proves that our government does as much to hurt our citizens as much as it does to help them. This is only one example out of many. To bad the construction of a building has more oversight to make sure it's done right than the decisions from our court. You would hope our courts would put in more effort, spend more time and have more oversight to make sure our families are safe and protected than they do. They don't.
Current Status/Update
The following is a summary of the current status of this case:
On August 16, 2024, Mr. Alvar petitioned the Court to establish parenting time and custody. Mr. Alvar requested the Court to grant him sole legal and sole physical custody of Sloane and Declan. Mr. Alvar also requested that Ms. Schmidt not be allowed any parenting time.
On September 3, 2024, Ms. Schmidt filed her response. Ms. Schmidt requested sole legal and sole physical custody of Sloane and Declan and requests that Mr. Alvar’s parenting time be supervised at a center.
On September 17, 2024, parties were ordered to participate in mediation.
On October 3, 2024, this Guardian ad Litem was named by the Court.
On November 6, 2024, both parties participated in a SENE and were able to come up with a temporary agreement. Both parties agreed that Mr. Alvar will have parenting time once a week at a supervised center for up to 90 minutes. Mr. Alvar shall complete an anger management course, participate in a psychological evaluation with a parenting component, and be alcohol free at least 24 hours prior to any scheduled parenting time. Ms. Schmidt also agreed to complete a psychological evaluation with a parenting component. Both parties agreed that neither parent shall speak negatively about each other in front of the child or allow a third party to do so.
Correct, I petitioned the court requesting sole legal and sole physical custody of the kids until Amy gets the help she needs to treat her mental health. I started this process after being physically assaulted by her and her abducting our children. I started this process before she filed for an OFP on me.
The SENE temporary agreement by me was only due to the fact that I had no say in the matter and Amy as our children's mother has 100% control over my involvement. This is per the State of Minnesota since we are unmarried. This needs to change.
The supervised visitation is actually ordered as at least once per week for at least 90 minutes.
The anger management course is due to Amy's belief that whoever she is assaulting, either physically, emotionally or mentally should not be angry with her behavior. In any case I had no issue with her request so I attended a sixteen hour course versus the minimum required eight hours. One interesting thing I learned is that anger is a natural and normal emotion. I guess I knew that.
Since I asked her to take the psychological evaluation and she agreed I have to take one as well. Which I had no issue agreeing to.
I have to be alcohol free within 24 hours of my visitations with the kids. Hum. I wondered about this at first but realized there is a checklist of requests she could use and this was included. So of course she's going to throw everything she can at me and include it. I agreed as it is not a problem. It did work to her advantage though because having it included raised and eyebrow with the Guardian ad Litem as a red flag. I explained to her that in the beginning with the OFP case Amy could have included any type of treatment for me. See form.
Since she didn't and I don't have an issue I assume again, she's throwing everything she can at me now. It's also notable that she's on record for having a bac of .181% while I had a 0.00% during our only incident that included alcohol. Except for the time she was grabbing at the steering wheel while I was driving.
Interesting now that she wanted the addition that neither party speak negatively about the other party in front of the children when she's the only party on record at every visitation doing so. This is illegal and it's called parental alienation. She has a court order stating she's not allowed to. Yet, so far it's being allowed.
Persons Contacted
The following persons and/or resources have been contacted by the guardian ad litem in an effort to learn information about the child(ren):
Ryan Alvar, father
Amy Schmidt, mother
Sloane Alvar, minor child
Declan Alvar, minor child
Christy, Mr. Alvar’s Personal Reference
Haven Alvar, Mr. Alvar’s Personal Reference
Billy Ciaccio, Ms. Schmidt’s Personal Reference
Ryan Schmidt, Ms. Schmidt’s Personal Reference
Jennifer Brunette, DAIP Parenting Time Program Coordinator
Documents Reviewed
The following documents have been reviewed and relied upon by the guardian ad litem when preparing this report:
Minnesota’s Government Access
St. Louis County Social Services Documents
St. Louis County Sheriff’s Documents
Duluth Police Department
Hermantown Police Department
Hennepin County Social Services
Hennepin County Sheriff’s Department
Documents provided by Mr. Alvar
Documents provided by Ms. Schmidt
Summary of Party Perspective
The following is a summary of the perspectives of parties on this case:
Interview with Party 1
Ryan Alvar, father
The following summary is a compilation of information reported by Mr. Alvar at the virtual initial interview on October 16, 2024, and all proceeding interviews.
Mr. Alvar reported that he and Ms. Schmidt started dating in 2016 and that they had a business together and they were there for each other from the very beginning. Mr. Alvar claimed that Ms. Schmidt had just got out of a bad place during that time, but now he realizes that she was always in a bad place. Mr. Alvar stated that he has 2 older non-joint children, one is 21 and the other is 16. Mr. Alvar reported that he still has 50/50 custody of his non-joint son.
Mr. Alvar shared that in 2016, he and Ms. Schmidt moved to Denver, CO together and while they were there, their first domestic incident ensued where the police were called. Mr. Alvar explained his version of events and alleged that other domestic incidents followed. Mr. Alvar explained that after their arguments and fighting, after a day or so would go by, their heightened feelings would go away, where Ms. Schmidt would always apologize, and they would move on. Mr. Alvar explained that there were a lot of times in their relationship that were really good, where Ms. Schmidt would be super loving and supportive, but then she would flip where he didn’t know what was going on.
Mr. Alvar stated that once their non-compete was up for work, they bought a travel trailer and traveled 2 years full time. Mr. Alvar stated that it was a little tough navigating parenting time with his older children, but he would usually fly them out or pick them up and they would stay with them. Mr. Alvar stated that in 2017, his non-joint son witnessed a domestic incident between he and Ms. Schmidt where, again, the police were called. Mr. Alvar explained his version of events and stated that 3 days after the incident, Ms. Schmidt came back to their trailer, and it was never talked about it again.
Yes, my version backed up by police reports that three deputies showed up in the middle of the night after Amy lost it. They arrived, investigated, and took her away. They also followed up with a police report that was included in the OFP case and for this Guardian ad Litem stating that their final disposition was that Amy's allegation of assault was false / unfounded. This was determined by two male and one female deputies of the Sheriff's office. Amy's allegations were of me hitting her and pulling her hair out. Their investigation proved she had no injuries and no hair removed, plus her behavior during their time with her lead to them removing her and filing the report they did.
Here are those police reports:
Mr. Alvar shared more alleged incidents of domestic abuse and stated that they were always able to come back together and work it out. Mr. Alvar stated that on July 2, 2024, was the last domestic incident that he and Ms. Schmidt had. Mr. Alvar explained that prior to the fighting, he and Ms. Schmidt were in a good spot. Mr. Alvar stated that he was working at the time while everyone was in their trailer, and Ms. Schmidt was trying to get the children down to nap. Mr. Alvar explained that he and Ms. Schmidt then began to argue about the children’s nap, and Ms. Schmidt began screaming at Sloane. Mr. Alvar stated that he told Ms. Schmidt to stop screaming and that things escalated from there where he described being “clocked” in the face by Ms. Schmidt and blood started coming out of his mouth and nose. Mr. Alvar stated that he ended up restraining Ms. Schmidt and the children witnessed the events transpiring where they were visibly and vocally scared of the situation. Mr. Alvar reported that Ms. Schmidt took the children after they deescalated. The next day, Mr. Alvar reported that Ms. Schmidt came back to get their trailer with her brother and that the police ended up being called.
Correct, Amy assaulted me.
The children didn't witness Amy hitting me as the bedroom door was closed. But they did end up coming into the bedroom right after when I had Amy restrained on the bed after hitting me. She was screaming bloody murder while I was holding her arms down and laying on her body to prevent her from hitting me again or injuring the kids. So, the kids witness me holding her but by her acting the way she did while screaming like I was stabbing her, obviously was scary for Delcan. He was upset but Sloane was not as she probably thought we were screwing around as we had been known to do.
To be 100% accurate, Amy had called me the next day and I was not at our RV. I arrived shortly after to find her and her brother attempting to move my motorcycle trailer out of the way and were going to take the RV. All while trespassing and ignoring law enforcement orders of taking the property matter to court. Amy lied in her court testimony and stated that was not what they were doing. The nice thing about Amy's attorney having all witnesses sequestered is her brother wasn't in the courtroom when she made this statement. When he testified, he was truthful and stated they had a tow truck on standby to come take the RV after they moved my motorcycle trailer out of the way. Again, the courts do not charge perjury for civil cases so it didn't matter that Amy lied in court after taking the oath that she wouldn't.
Mr. Alvar reported that he told Ms. Schmidt after the incident he would be filing for custody and that soon after he told her that, he was served with Order for Protection paperwork. Mr. Alvar explained that prior to July 2nd, he was with his children every day and all day. Mr. Alvar stated that he would stay with the children or go do activities with them when Ms. Schmidt when out and about and that they shared many great memories. Mr. Alvar explained that he has had a great co-parenting relationship with his ex-wife where they continue to successfully co-parent their children. Mr. Alvar shared that he and Ms. Schmidt would always go to the children’s doctor and dentist appointments together, and they were both actively involved with the children’s lives. Mr. Alvar explained that Ms. Alvar never reported any fear or worries about him caring for their children since the day they were born, but now she is actively trying to keep the children from him and trying to portray him out to be a person he is not.
She means Ms. Schmidt here but yes, I had the kids pretty much every day and yes, Amy had no worries before July 2nd when she took our kids. Our text message string this past year proves it as I had them, she's asking about them, and not one concern, every day.
Mr. Alvar claimed to have never abused Ms. Schmidt and that the accusations she had made are false. Mr. Alvar explained that the Court was aware (during their OFP evidentiary hearings) of Ms. Schmidt’s past childhood abuse that she endured, and they looked past it. Mr. Alvar said he realizes that the Court has issues labeling people, but he has been with Ms. Schmidt for almost 9 years, and he came to realize he knew nothing about her. Mr. Alvar stated that he believes Ms. Schmidt has borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality, and PTSD, where she needs to be seen by a professional. Mr. Alvar explained that Ms. Schmidt’s mother is a terrible person and abused Ms. Schmidt throughout her life and that Ms. Schmidt was sexually assaulted by her father when she was 6 years old but didn’t tell anyone until she was around the age of 14.
Mr. Alvar expressed that he has come to understand that Ms. Schmidt displays a lot of the same behaviors as her mother. Mr. Alvar said he has witnessed Ms. Schmidt being physical and emotionally violent towards Declan and Sloane, where he now has trouble sleeping at night because he is scared to death of what Ms. Schmidt will do with their children. Mr. Alvar claimed that Ms. Schmidt is “out of her mind, she is gone, she is violent and dangerous.” Mr. Alvar explained that he still loves Ms. Schmidt, and he looks at this situation “like she has cancer.” Mr. Alvar stated that Ms. Schmidt “doesn’t want this disorder.” Mr. Alvar explained that he had no idea what she had experienced in her past until after the July 2nd incident and believes the Court does not fully understand mental health.
Mr. Alvar explained that he also is concerned with Ms. Schmidt possibly coaching the children during this time. Mr. Alvar stated that Ms. Schmidt used to scream at both children all day long and at one point, Mr. Alvar’s mother talked with Ms. Schmidt about it, and Ms. Schmidt admitted she has a problem and that she couldn’t stop herself. Mr. Alvar reiterated that Ms. Schmidt is just like her parents, and she cannot stop this behavior on her own. Mr. Alvar explained that Declan and Sloane cannot grow up in her care like this and that the generational abuse is not going to end until someone breaks it.
Well I am concerned about the coaching and parental alienation which has been documented over the course of our hearings. The first one was a video that Amy's attorney tried to admit into evidence of her coaching the kids. The referee in the hearing objected to it being introduced and actually had an exchange of words with Amy's attorney for him trying to enter it due to her clearly coaching them. For some reason Amy is covering the camera at first and it's just audio but eventually the video comes on.
I know it shouldn't be funny but since I don't get to see these kids I do find this video amusing. For one, it's just good to see and hear them and two, hearing Amy try to get the kids to say and do things while the other one, especially Sloane, is contradicting the other one cracks me up.
To help you understand standing at the wall, at times I would hold Declan against the wall and make him look at me when we're talking. Such as if he was acting out and/or hurt his mom or sister when he wasn't listening. I did this or had him sit on the stairs while I held his hands until he looked me in the eye and listened. As most know young kids try to change the subject or don't pay attention when getting a talking to. This was never to punish him. Only to make him stop and listen as it was usually after someone else got hurt. Mostly his little sister. It was also usually after telling him many times to stop whatever he was doing and him not doing so. This was the alleged child abuse that the court determined not to be the case. This is the alleged abuse that has kept my children from me for over seven months now.
Also, coaching and parental alienation has been recorded when I've visited my kids. Strange fact that Jordan who wrote this report actually witnessed it on our second visitation and her words were "it's concerning".
Mr. Alvar is asking the court for sole legal and physical custody of Declan and Sloane until Ms. Schmidt can get help and address her mental health. Mr. Alvar reported that he hopes to have 50/50 custody at some point, but that change needs to happen. Mr. Alvar stated that he does not want to hurt Ms. Schmidt as she is a good mom and a good person, and that is reportedly why he continued to stay in the relationship for as long as he did. Mr. Alvar stated that he did not know everything that was going on and hoped that things would have changed, but they didn’t. Mr. Alvar claimed that if Ms. Schmidt received help, she could change. Mr. Alvar said that Ms. Schmidt doesn’t deserve to not have her children, and he would never want to take them away from her. Mr. Alvar asserted that if things continued like this forever, he would “take these children and run, and she would never see them again. I will never risk the physical and emotional wellbeing of the children.”
Correct, I did say I would remove the kids from Amy if she doesn't get the help she needs as I will not allow them to be subjected to physical, emotional and mental abuse. If you read this as a whole which states that I do not want to take the kids from Amy and I do not want to take Amy away from the kids. I will do everything I can to protect the kids if their being abused. Such as seeking 100% full legal and physical custody of the children as I am, until Amy get's the help she needs. This Sounds a little better than how it's stated above. I've proven it since they were taken from me and I was falsely accused of domestic abuse and child abuse. I have done nothing but sought out every legal avenue.
I know she's making this out to sound bad on my behalf but I see it as the opposite and many agree. I have had woman that are strangers ask me my story when I'm at the courthouse. They have given me hugs while in tears stating that they wished the father of their children cared as much as me. This is the truth, I will not stop telling the truth, I will not stop fighting for these kids and I will not stop fighting for reform in our legal system that allows this to happen. If caring too much is wrong than I guess I am.
In another virtual interview on November 20, 2024, this writer talked with Mr. Alvar about the SENE agreement and or updates or additional concerns. This writer discussed with Mr. Alvar that she met with the children in Ms. Schmidt’s care and that the children appeared to be happy and well cared for. Mr. Alvar became argumentative about the length of time spent with Ms. Alvar and the children and stated that this writer will not see anything throughout the entirety of the investigation, but the evidence he provided proves otherwise. Mr. Alvar requested another sit down meeting to go over all of the evidence regarding Ms. Schmidt and to explain to this writer Ms. Schmidt’s issues with mental health. This Guardian ad Litem explained that temporary recommendations will be made, and that this writer will request to wait until after the psychological examinations are completed to make permanent recommendations for the family. This writer acknowledged Mr. Alvar’s concerns, but also explained that this writer cannot take his diagnoses of Ms. Schmidt as fact, and that he will have to wait for the appropriate agency’s findings. This writer also explained to Mr. Alvar that if Ms. Schmidt is diagnosed with all the things he is alleging, that it isn’t going to be the sole factor when determining permanent parenting time recommendations.
And (not supposed to start a sentence with and) this is the problem with our court system. What if I hadn't gotten Amy to agree on our own to a psychological evaluation? Especially since I've asked the courts to require one so far and they have denied it. Where would this report go? How would it be concluded if there were no psychological evaluation? As I've stated several times, look at her behavior. She doesn't have to diagnose Amy, just review her behavior. I have so much evidence that I provided the courts including the Guardian ad Litem and asked if I could sit down with her and review it so she can understand what's going on and to answer any questions she may have. This is when she responded that she had spent more time on my childrens case than she has on others and that she didn't have the time to do so. So then, without investigating all evidence she would have no clue what is going on and would not be able to make a complete report based on Amy's behavior. She basically put the responsibility on the psychological evaluator but then includes the caveat that the evaluation isn't going to be the sole factor. Understood, but based on this report I already know what the final suggestion will be even if the psychological evaluation shows the worst. Right?!?! Plus I agree with her, a diagnosed mental health disorder isn't the problem. The behavior is the problem but it's being overlooked. So why wait for a diagnosis when the behavior is already the issue and apparent?
To answer her first statement that I was argumentative when she said she met with Amy and the kids and said she had no concerns. Yep. I was. I said how long were you with her and the kids? She said it was under two hours. I said, really, so you expected to find out everything that's going on with her and our kids in that much time. You don't think that she'll put her best foot forward when you're visiting? You don't think she'll do everything she can to not be found out? I even said Ted Bundy didn't murder people in front of other people. Right?!?!? A couple of hours and "no concerns". No questions I'm sure of why did you assault Ryan on July 2nd per the police report and your statements? No questioning, since the courts have concluded that Ryan is not a danger to his children why have you kept them apart? No questioning, why are you telling the kids not talk to their dad, not to play with him, not to hug him, etc when going to visitations? Were there any hard questions asked? Was she pressed for her behavior? Based on this report I would say, no. To be fair to Jordan, lets say she doesn't have the time available to complete a thorough report. Then there needs to be a change. There needs to be a way to take extra steps to make sure a thorough investigation is complete. This cannot be a one size fits all. No excuses. If this is the case I ask Jordan to speak out and help me with this change. If the status quo isn't good enough for you to perform your job 100% please speak out so we can get the resources for you to do it right. We have to stop going along with business as usual if it's not enough.
Here is an audio recording from Jordan (Guardian ad Litem) and myself after the second visitation with the kids. She attended because of the concern of parental alienation before visitations started as well as the documented alienation from the first visit. This report was written by her and she is in charge of making recommendations to the court regarding the kids. So her job is to represent the State of Minnesota in my children's child custody case and her sole responsibility is to be an advocate for the children. As you can see the State of Minnesota will make any and every excuse to allow child abuse to continue even after stating it's concerning and witnessing it first hand. This is a red flag to me. Isn't it for you? Also, per her statements regarding this child abuse (per Minnesota State law) does she even comment on this abuse in this report like she said she was going to? I don't see it anywhere. This audio proves there is abuse, proves the State of Minnesota is aware of it and proves from this recording to the date of this recommendation the State has done nothing to prevent it. In fact, the State of Minnesota has only made excuses. Fact.
Mr. Alvar also has placed blame on this writer for what might happen to these children in the future if the right action is not taken. This writer explained her role to Mr. Alvar and that all emergencies and/or concerns need to be directed to the appropriate agencies. This writer is not a decision maker but conducts an investigation in order to make recommendations on what is believed to be in the children’s best interest.
Correct, I have placed blame on this writer and everyone that is involved in our cases and in my children's best interest when it comes to safety. What I have learned after conversing with the State of Minnesota Governor's office, many State Senators and Representatives as well as our mental health departments within the State of Minnesota is there is no way for a third party such as myself to engage a mental health crisis department to intercept a possible life threatening situation when it comes to my children. Unless the other party is in the act of committing a crime or willingly accepts to receive help. Therefore, the only outcome for my children is I receive help from individuals or departments involved in overseeing my children's care or they are at worst case killed due to a mental health crisis. Therefore I have made everyone involved in my children's care and even those that are not but are responsible for the laws that govern their safely responsible for the outcome of their wellbeing. I don't know of any other way to go about it and if you have a problem with that you should put a little more effort into your ability to make sure my children are safe. I wouldn't be doing my job as a father if I wasn't doing all I can to shine a light on this issue and protect my children to the best of my ability. We are all responsible! It's accountability and we need more of it. Especially when children are involved.
To answer her statement, she is a decision maker as she makes recommendations to the court on the outcome of my children's care. Her recommendation in this report proves that the State of Minnesota does not have an understanding of mental health or what it takes to prevent childhood trauma from the abuse that causes it. No, you can't use not having a psychological evaluation as a crutch. You need to take into account the actions that are right in front of you. Per the previous audio recording it is proven that the State of Minnesota is unwilling to do so. So again, do better, prove me wrong, update your temporary recommendation and make your final and permanent recommendation in the best interest of my children. For their sake, please.
Interview with Party 2
Amy Schmidt, mother
The following summary is a compilation of information reported by Ms. Schmidt at the virtual initial interview on October 16, 2024, and all proceeding interviews.
According to Ms. Schmidt, she and Mr. Alvar were in a relationship for eight and a half years. Ms. Schmidt reported that soon after they started dating, they moved to Denver and lived there for 7-8 months. Ms. Schmidt explained that during their time in Denver, she experienced her first alleged incident of domestic abuse from Mr. Alvar. Ms. Schmidt stated that it never got better after that, and she soon found out that there was no rhyme or reason to what was going to happen next in their relationship. Ms. Schmidt stated that once their children were born, Declan and Sloane started witnessing and becoming involved with the abuse that was going on between her and Mr. Alvar. Ms. Schmidt explained that during many of their arguments, Mr. Alvar would leave her and the children for days, where she was left to care for the children until he returned. Ms. Schmidt stated that she continued to stay in the relationship because Mr. Alvar was “so believable” and she was “so stupid.” Ms. Schmidt stated that she watched everyone they knew believe the words that came out of Mr. Alvar’s mouth and that she felt and still feels like it is a game to him, as he doesn’t care, and he is just focused on hurting her.
We lived in Denver for 13 months. Correct, Denver were the first incidents of Amy acting out. The first time was when I had my two older children and was going to bring them back to their mothers. Rather than flying them back I was going to drive them as I had my motorcycle trailer and still had some items back in Minnesota that needed to be brought to Colorado. The day before we were to leave Amy started acting strange and was very upset. I had no idea what was going on and she would not tell me. As the evening went on she was screaming and acting out. This was the night before we were to leave but my only thought was I needed to get the kids out of here. So we packed up before we were supposed to and took off back to Minnesota. Amy was fine shortly after but it took me a long time to understand what had happened. She never told me but my assumption is, and this is after many years more of experience is, Amy always thought I would go back to my ex wife. She was upset that it would happen on that trip. I can only assume this was her trigger that time as everything was fine and we were having a good time with the kids. That trigger made her lose total control of her emotions.
Another time Amy being the good person she is, invited a guy she had just met that day in the apartment complex to hang out with us that night. We were going out for drinks at the bar next door. His fiance was out of town so he was alone that night and we didn't know many people in the area so we thought it would be fun. We spent hours with him and he seemed like a good guy. Once we were done and were leaving we walked out single file. Me, Amy and this guy, if I remember right his name was Chris. This was eight years ago. As we walk by the bar I hear a commotion behind me and as I turn Chris had run off. Amy's like he just grabbed my butt. She had turned to smack him off of her and when doing so he took off. I was pissed of course. Here Amy was nice enough to invite this guy out with us and he assaults her. As that night went on Amy again, lost it. But instead of filing a police report on this creep she is upset with me. She calls law enforcement stating I'm assaulting her. For the record and obvious common sense, I was never mad at her as that's ridiculous. I was mad at Chris but I was trying to get her to file a report against him. Telling her that he is going to continue to act this way until he is forced to stop and by her not reporting him, she is allowing it to continue to happen to others. She still wouldn't do it. Anyway, she calls law enforcement to report an assault on me and Denver police arrive and per Amy's testimony in court they told her to sleep it off. She also stated in testimony in another police report that the police officers told me they weren't going to arrest me because "she's a stupid bitch". Well, I'm not sure any police officer would go on the record saying that and I don't remember any such conversation. I just remember this incident flipped her switch again and she lost control of her emotions. Enough so that even law enforcement told her to sleep it off. If there was any sign of abuse by me they would have been all over it. Also, this is the event where in court we're looking at a picture of Amy's face after she explained that I hit her very hard in the side of the face. Her face was perfectly normal. She had a cut on her lip that she agreed was from her jacket zipper but nothing anywhere else. Nothing. We stared at this picture for minutes. After being caught in that lie she stuck with it. I was awestruck by it.
I have no idea what abuse Declan and Sloane would have witnessed. Since Amy has picture and video evidence of everything she's been through since the beginning of our relationship you would think she would have this documented as well? To be honest, I think pregnancy and having the kids in the early years gave Amy a sense of family and commitment by me. I think her fears of me leaving her or whatever it was as she would switch between being okay and then shortly after being very insecure in our relationship went away for a long time. Like I've said before, for years after the kids she was okay and everything was really good.
Funny statement about me leaving her and the children for days at a time as I have this documented as well in our text messages. See attached text message string from two years ago. This is actually a great example of her losing her shit, telling me to leave, me leaving, her being upset I left, me coming back and nothing more being said. As you can read this one started again with her getting upset with getting Sloane to take a nap. As you can read I didn't leave them stranded as I asked what she needed from the store before I was going to be farther away. As you can read she is the one that said she was done with me and that's why I left. All this and it always happened when I would be in the middle of a project that needed to be completed. So, for over these two days I'm dealing with this situation and working days straight without sleep. Plus I paid a ton of money for our resort location right on the ocean and then having to find another place for me to stay while she comes to terms with whatever is bothering her at that moment. Again, great example.
Ms. Schmidt reported that over the course of their relationship, they lived in their travel trailer and traveled to different locations. Ms. Schmidt shared many incidents of the alleged domestic abuse she endured from Mr. Alvar and stated that the police were called a few different times. Ms. Schmidt stated during the last incident on July 2, 2024, the children witnessed her and Mr. Alvar’s whole argument, watched Mr. Alvar punch a mirror, get in her face, and at one point the children yelled at Mr. Alvar to stop hurting their mom. Ms. Schmidt stated that a police report was made, but they stated that they could not distinguish who the aggressor was. Ms. Schmidt stated that this wasn’t the first time she was let down by the police, which continues to make her not want to call them for future help. Ms. Schmidt explained at that time she made the decision that she was done with her relationship with Mr. Alvar, and she was not going back. Ms. Schmidt reported that she soon filed for an Order for Protection that was granted, then set for trial.
Not so, in two different stints we traveled full time. One for two years before Declan was born and another for two years, one year after Sloane was born. We traveled the country all summer and spent the winters in South Florida or most recently in the Florida Keys. Comical. Yes, I requested the police reports and I submitted them into evidence as in all of them Amy was the aggressor, Amy was the one taken away, I was the one with injuries, and Amy was found to be filing a false report of assault. You would think that besides the facts that are included in the reports by trained law enforcement officers that do this for a living, a huge red flag would be I requested the reports and I submitted them to the courts and this Guardian ad Litem. Would I do that if what was included in the reports showed I was at fault? Why didn't Amy and her attorney request the reports and provide them for the courts?
Ms. Schmidt stated that since the Order for Protection has been put in place, Mr. Alvar has allegedly violated the order on multiple occasions. Ms. Schmidt stated that Declan saw his father at a restaurant recently, where Declan has now voiced that he doesn’t want to go to restaurants anymore because he is scared that their dad will take them away. Ms. Schmidt stated that she does not tell the children that their father is a bad person, but there are times where she will sit and listen to them talk about their dad and will comfort the feelings that they express. Ms. Schmidt shared that the children have strong opinions of their father at this time, where she has recorded a few of their conversation without them knowing, but that the Judge for the OFP did not like the recordings as it could be perceived as coaching. Ms. Schmidt reiterated that she does not coach her children to not like their father, but she also doesn’t sit there and tell them that he is a good person either.
Including these statements in this report proves the State of Minnesota is so very gullible. Nope, never violated the OFP. On one occasion I arrived at one of Amy's friends house to ask her to help watchover Amy and the kids as I was worried what Amy might do to them once she realized I petitioned the court for full custody. I thought she might kill them and then take her own life. When I arrived I was about to pull in the driveway and Amy was there. I wasn't expecting that and when I saw her I drove past the driveway. She lived on a dead end road so I had to wait awhile until Amy finished walking back up the driveway to the house and then I drove back by as that was the only way to leave. Law enforcement was trying to arrest me for it but luckily Amy truthfully answered them when asked if I had been to that address before, she said yes, many times. They then asked her if I would have known she was there and she said no, I wouldn't have known she was there. This house was six miles from the address she has listed as her home. This is not an OFP violation. It has all been investigated.
The second time which she refers to above was outside of Grandma's restaurant in canal park Duluth, MN. I had just finished a late lunch with my oldest daughter Haven and both of my parents. I had a receipt that was submitted into evidence showing we were there for over an hour and a half before Amy arrived. The receipt is stamped with the in and out time of the order. When we left we found Amy standing in front of my / our truck. I say our because it was our vehicle for our whole relationship and at that point I had 273,000 miles on it from all the traveling we did. This was just as much her truck as mine which means she knew it very well. Plus it stands out as a black with chrome trim Chevy High Country 2500 with my fifth wheel hitch in the back. She knows this truck. Plus she just stood there staring at me while holding Declan in front of me. She had a blank none emotional look on her face. Kinda like, smug. While she was staring at me she was whispering in Declan's ear. He was also just staring at me. She then picked up her phone and called law enforcement to report an OFP violation on me. It took a lot of begging but I didn't get arrested even though they tried very hard to. When this was all investigated it was dropped by the county attorney's office. Besides the fact that Amy tried to set me up with a crime this is also additional proof that the State of Minnesota doesn't care about child abuse as Amy purposely placed Declan in front of me all the while I couldn't do anything. He witnessed his father not coming to see him, (after months) not giving him hugs and kisses, but saw me just stand there and not be there for him. Amy did that to him and Amy did that to me and the courts and the State do not care. Besides my testimony for this event I had three other witnesses.
I already included the recorded video and audio of her coaching the kids and their response from her doing that. Again, they haven't been with me since July 2nd, 2024 so the only place for them to get the information they're stating is from their Mom. Anyone that doesn't understand this is again, gullible.
Ms. Schmidt reported that their OFP trial lasted a few days where a lot of evidence was offered by both parties and witnesses were called. Ms. Schmidt reported that the Judge made her decision on October 23, 2024, stating that domestic abuse had occurred in the relationship, but left the children out of the order. Ms. Schmidt expressed that she always was more worried about the children than herself when she filed for the OFP, so she is really concerned that her testimony and evidence was not proof enough to show the danger Mr. Alvar allegedly is to the children.
The referee actually did include the children in the final OFP. She stated that Amy's allegations of child abuse were false and removed them from the original emergency order for protection. She stated that my oldest daughter Haven's testimony plus evidence provided on the children proved there was no child abuse.
The judge did include Amy on the final OFP. She did so by stating that all evidence I provided proved Amy's testimony and refuted my testimony. So basically stated that Amy's testimony is what made it factual. In most recent hearings this same court stated that Amy's mental health has nothing to do with the OFP case. So again, the State of Minnesota has proven that hard evidence to the contrary of a person's statement means nothing to the court. Such as statements by law enforcement officers and even Amy's statements or actions made out of court that contradict her in court statements. I am also still fighting the OFP case as it's not over. But since it's out there still it carries more weight than anything. Another reason we need to change the system when it comes to orders for protection based on false allegations as they can affect so many other aspects of one's life.
Ms. Schmidt explained that soon after the OFP’s decision was made, Mr. Alvar created a blog about his version of what is going on. Ms. Schmidt reported that Mr. Alvar has given Ms. Schmidt a mental health diagnosis within his blog, lies about her throughout, plastered photos of her, Declan, and Sloane, and added a day counter explaining how many days she has “kidnapped” the children for. Ms. Schmidt is confused how this is not slander or defamation for herself, Safe Haven, Justice North, and her attorney. Ms. Schmidt stated that the abuse she endured in the relationship has not stopped, and she needs further protection for herself and the children. Ms. Schmidt explained that she has become extremely worried that someone will see the blog, recognize her out in public, and think that she has kidnapped her two children. Ms. Schmidt stated that there was an Order for Protection in place, and that she never kidnapped them.
True, but it's not my version as stated before. I'm being transparent and including hard evidence to back up my statements. Whereas she has nothing to back up her statements.
Not slander.
Slander definition:
1: the utterance of false charges or misrepresentations which defame and damage another's reputation
2: a false and defamatory oral statement about a person
Not defamation.
Defamation definition:
1: the act of communicating false statements about a person that injure the reputation of that person
It appears the word "false" is the leading factor for slander and defamation. Since that is not the case as all my statements are backed up by hard evidence it is not slander or defamation.
Okay let's keep the dictionary open...
Kidnap definition:
1: to seize and detain or carry away by unlawful force or fraud and often with a demand for ransom
It appears that's an accurate statement as well. My children were taken from me after I was physically assaulted. That same person filed false domestic abuse allegations against me. That same person filed false child abuse allegations against me. That same person made false statements in a court of law against me. That same person by making false statements about me committed "fraud" when the court made an order based on those false allegations. That would all make it "unlawful". We could include the demand for ransom as Amy has been receiving public assistance since she took off with the kids. Now the State of Minnesota wants me to pay them back and start paying for Amy's costs. Again, after everything she has done. All of the above justifies the use of the term "kidnapped".
Ms. Schmidt shared that after July 2nd, 2024, she had to figure out her next steps and figure out where she was going to live, etc. Ms. Schmidt stated that she was able to find a place for her, Declan, and Sloane, and they have started their new routine. Ms. Schmidt detailed her and the children’s weekly routine and asked this writer not to share the details within the report as she wants to keep her whereabouts confidential for her own protection. This writer will note that the routine is consistent and appropriate, and that this writer did not find any concerns within. Ms. Schmidt shared that Declan and Sloane are best friends and that they are playing with each other constantly. Ms. Schmidt stated that both children are up to date on their doctor’s appointments and that they aren’t receiving any services at this time. Ms. Schmidt stated that she isn’t participating in therapy currently as she has been focusing on getting the children comfortable and situated during this transition period.
According to Ms. Schmidt, she continues to worry about the children having supervised visits with their father as she is unsure if the children will want to do it or not. Ms. Schmidt expressed she feels like she would be forcing her children to face their abuser. Ms. Schmidt stated that she believes Sloane would forget about what has happened over time, but Declan has reportedly made it clear how he feels about Mr. Alvar. Ms. Schmidt acknowledged that she knows the children would be safe in a supervised setting, but it is really hard for her to make that step.
Again, I have a court order that states I'm not an abuser but let's keep piling it on.
Ms. Schmidt pointed out that she was confused when Mr. Alvar asked the court for full custody. Ms. Schmidt stated that Mr. Alvar never really took care of their children during their relationship. Ms. Schmidt explained that Mr. Alvar saw his two older non-joint children maybe 25 times a year, but now he wants full custody of their two children. Ms. Schmidt claimed that Mr. Alvar has told her many times throughout the course of their relationship that if she left him, he would take the children away from her. Ms. Schmidt stated Mr. Alvar is trying to execute his threat by making her look like a crazy person who is going to kill her children. Ms. Schmidt stated that she thought he would just attempt this in Court, but with his blog, social media posts, and trying to pin her family against her, he has taken his threat to a whole new level.
Evidence provided including the previous included text message string from the past year shows I raised these kids. Nope, what I would say when she lost control of her emotions and acted out or physically assaulted me was that I would take the kids from her if she didn't get help for her past trauma. I don't need to make her look like a crazy person, her actions, her statements, police reports of her behavior and including all her actions / statements in these proceeding make her look the way she does. Because of her inability to control her emotions and the fact that she has physically assaulted me per law enforcement reports and the fact that she cannot control her behavior when dealing with the children makes me scared she is going to kill them or seriously injure them. It happens every day in this world. I just hope my children are saved from it before it's too late for them. I'm not trying to pin anyone against her and as I've stated in previous posts I'm not doing or saying anything to hurt Amy. I actually do care about her and my children's safety. I'm being 100% transparent with our cases to bring awareness to mental health and how our government doesn't understand it. Because of that the lives of innocent people including children are at risk or even taken every day.
On November 20, 2024, this writer talked with Ms. Schmidt about her and Mr. Alvar’s SENE agreement. Ms. Schmidt stated that they came to an agreement on a temporary basis that supervised visits will begin between Mr. Alvar and the children. Ms. Schmidt stated that they both agreed to undergo a psychological evaluation which she has already started calling places to do so. Ms. Schmidt stated that Mr. Alvar continues to try and fight the Court’s order on the OFP and that he has continued to harass her through social media, his blogs, and through her attorney, where she still fears for her and the children’s safety. Ms. Schmidt stated she continues to worry that if there comes a point where Mr. Alvar gets unsupervised parenting time of the children, that he will take them, and she will never see them again.
To be 100% honest I finally got Amy to agree to a psychological evaluation even after the courts refused to require her to do so. But by me requiring it of her I have undergo one myself which I didn't have an issue with. So no, she didn't get me to undergo one. It was the other way around as it's in our evaluation record that I asked for it. No, I have not harassed her and you would think if I was there would be proof. But nope, she can say this and the State includes it in their report and a reason for their decision. Yep, keep piling it on. She has never stated before this that she was worried about me taking the kids and she will never see them again. So now half a year later she adds another reason to keep the kids away from me and the State just goes along with it. Pathetic. I think that's illegal as well? Right? Punishment for a crime that the person might commit. I thought our Bill of Rights protected us from this?
Ms. Schmidt reiterated that she is confused on why Mr. Alvar has decided to diagnose her, himself with mental health disorders and blast her past trauma of being sexually abused as a child to the world. Ms. Schmidt explained that Mr. Alvar is trying to maintain that he is doing this “for her” and is trying to help her, but that she never asked for his help and that his approach on helping is only making things harder for her to navigate this time in her life. Ms. Schmidt pointed out that since she left the relationship with Mr. Alvar, she has sought services for herself and the children, and has focused on keeping herself and the children safe. Ms. Schmidt explained that Mr. Alvar has made it his life’s work to paint her as a terrible person to everyone she knows, and he continues to claim that the children are at risk being in her care.
Just reading this paints the picture of her mental health. If you read this and don't understand, I don't know what to say. For the rest of you that understand it's simple. Stop fighting me, stop trying to get your kids back, leave us alone and be on your way is what she's saying. No you're not asking for help for your mental health and that's the problem. That's why I'm fighting you and fighting for our children. So both you and our children are safe.
On December 6, 2024, Ms. Schmidt explained that Mr. Alvar proceeded to go to her uncle’s home in attempt to exchange property. Ms. Schmidt stated that her brother showed up to assist the situation as Mr. Alvar was not supposed to go there, and Mr. Alvar allegedly continued to try and turn her family against her. Ms. Schmidt stated that her bother recorded the incident and would provide it to this writer. Ms. Schmidt explained that Mr. Alvar drops bombs every week and that no one can stop him and that all she can do is sit back and watch.
Not true as proven in evidence.
This incident happened on Friday December 6th. As you can see by the attached email I told Amy's attorney that I would contact her uncle the prior Monday December 2nd. Which I did and he agreed to. So yes, Amy's attorney knew about it and her uncle approved it. I'm not going to hit on this as I've gone over it in a previous post. What it came down to is I was bringing some furniture to Amy's uncle for Amy that she wanted and I agreed to provide for her. When I was halfway done unloading it her brother came out and attacked me. This is the mentality of this family. These are the people who are taking care of my children and making decisions for them and the State of Minnesota is allowing them to. Not sure what bombs she's talking about? Again, you would think she would have evidence of this if it were so but nope. She can just make statements without proof and that State just goes along with it.
This writer received correspondences from Ms. Schmidt after a few supervised visits occurred with Mr. Alvar, Declan and Sloane. Ms. Schmidt noted that the children have started to struggle in the mornings and that they continue to tell her they don’t want to visit their dad. Ms. Schmidt stated that the children have also started to hide from her on the days they are supposed to visit their father.
If this is true than it goes along with my conversation with recorded correspondence between the kids Guardian ad Litem and myself included earlier in this post. Amy has custody of these kids. I have a court order from the State of Minnesota that states I have never abused these kids and that Amy's statements of child abuse were false. I have seen them five times for one and a half hours each time in over seven months at a supervised visitation center. Supervised so they know what is being said to the kids. I am not doing this to them so that only leaves one other person that can be alienating them against me. Amy Schmidt. Why is that so difficult to understand? As I was arguing with the Guardian ad Litem in the audio file. This State has no idea how to prevent child abuse and by allowing it to happen they are supporting it. Fact.
Here is a letter from the visitation center stating they have had no issues with me visiting my children. So again, not coming from me. Only one other place it could be...
Conversation/Observations with Children
The following is a summary of conversations with and observations of the children:
Sloane and Declan Alvar, minor children
On November 8, 2024, this writer visited both Declan and Sloane in their mother’s home. Present during the visit were both minor children and Ms. Schmidt. The home was tidy and organized, and both children had many observed belongings. This writer did not have any concerns regarding the upkeep and cleanliness of the home.
Both Declan and Sloane appeared to be happy upon arrival as they were smiling and eager to show this writer around. Both children showed this writer their things and talked with this writer in their room. Declan and Sloane both stated that they liked their new home and “felt good” about staying there. Sloane was more excited to show this writer things while Declan did most of the talking. When this writer brought up living in their camper, Declan stated that he liked living in the camper, but “Daddy fought a mirror in the camper,” and “Daddy pinned mom and threw me on the bed.” Declan told this writer that they do not live with their dad anymore and that he is not sad about it because he was mean to them and made “red marks” on them “all the time.” Declan continued to say, “we remember all this suff. I want to punch him, push him down, and put him in the garbage.” Declan did say that he liked to play with his dad, “before all this happened.” This writer asked Declan what he meant by “all this.” Declan proceeded to say that his dad drove by and then he went to the restaurant and then was waving. Declan said that the only thing that makes him scared is “daddy.” Both children said the only thing to make them happy was their mommy.
Good thing there isn't any evidence of her coaching the kids or alienating them yet so you can take a four and three year olds word to heart. I love these kids and am sad for what Amy has done to them. I am angry with the state for allowing this to happen and again, supporting it.
Prior to leaving the visit, Ms. Schmidt wanted to talk with this writer about other concerns. Ms. Schmidt asked the children to go to their rooms for a few minutes so she could talk in private. The children went to their room. While talking, the children came out another time, and Ms. Schmidt paused the conversation. This writer observed Ms. Schmidt being careful on bringing up Mr. Alvar around her children but did tell this writer that she told both children why this writer was coming to speak with them today and to tell this writer the truth. This writer left the home visit without any concerns.
What's that word? Oh yeah, naive.
She spent less than two hours with them and has no concerns. A lifetime of trauma, piles of evidence showing behaviour problems, face to face with child abuse and all is good. No wonder why we have the issues we do.
On December 11, 2024, this Guardian ad Litem was able to observe a supervised visit between Mr. Alvar, Declan, and Sloane at DAIP Parenting Time Center. This was reported to be the second supervised visit between Mr. Alvar and the children. The observation is noted below.
This writer arrived at DAIP at 1:10 p.m. Ms. Schmidt had already arrived with the children, and they were playing together prior to Mr. Alvar arriving. It was reported by Ms. Brunette that the children were hesitant on going into the center and stated they did not want to go in if their dad was there, but they were reassured that he was not there at that time and that they could go in and play with their mom. When this writer arrived, both Declan and Sloan were observed to be happy and seemed comfortable playing with toys. Ms. Schmidt stated that she didn’t know what to say to the children when she left but was able to say her goodbyes, and the children said their goodbyes, as well. The children still appeared to be in happy spirits when their mom left as they continued to play with the surrounding toys.
After a couple minutes, Mr. Alvar came into the visitation room, and Declan and Sloan immediately went to hide. This writer observed Declan’s smile fade away and he immediately said, “I don’t want to see him.” Declan and Sloan continued to hide, but Ms. Rouse was able to talk with them and get them out of the little playhouse they were hiding in. Ms. Rouse sat on the floor with Declan and Sloane and played with cars. Mr. Alvar tried to interact during this time, but Declan was vocally upset. Declan stated, “Mommy doesn’t even care about you,” and continued to say that Mr. Alvar hurt his mom. Mr. Alvar responded saying that he did not hurt his mom and Declan responded by saying that his dad was lying and that he did hurt his mom.
Mr. Alvar expressed that he was not going to hurt Declan and that he loves him and his mom and proceeded to try and talk about the fun things they used to do together. Mr. Alvar brought up Declan and Sloane’s older half siblings, and Declan responded, “Mom said they were mean to us.” Mr. Alvar said, “What about grandma and grandpa?” Declan responded, “They were mean too... at the camper.” Declan said a lot of specific things in the first hour of the visit where Sloane was observed to follow Declan’s lead. Declan became upset at Sloane during the visit because she was engaging more with Mr. Alvar, and Declan continued to tell her to stop talking to their dad.
Does anybody else understand how this is not first hand proof that the State of Minnesota is witnessing parental alienation? Also, proof that there's more to Amy's issue as she is telling the kids that their grandma, grandpa and older siblings (Haven and William) were mean to them. Okay, so she bamboozled the courts into getting an OFP served on me but now she's including my parents and their older siblings. Now everyone is abusing them? How is this not a red flag for the courts and the State of Minnesota including this Guardian ad Litem? You don't need a diagnosis, you need to observe the behavior.
By 2:09 p.m., the children were independently playing with Mr. Alvar without major disruption. Sloane continued to show her dad things and ask him for help and seemed to start feeling more comfortable. Declan continued to try and intervene from time to time to tell Sloane what to do, but Sloane continued to talk with her dad. Declan allowed Mr. Alvar to talk with him and help him with toys, but still would be hesitant vocalizing any sort of comfort. Mr. Alvar asked Declan and Sloane if he could play with them when they changed course, and they responded yes. At the end of the visit, the children gave kisses and hugs to their dad, and they seemed to not want the visit to be over as they continued to ask Mr. Alvar to be quick and “play on this one more time.”
Yep, this all adds up to keeping my children from me. I now understand why this report recommends Amy maintaining full custody while I still receive supervised visitation. Yep. I get it now.
Declan would make comments from time to time that Mr. Alvar perceived as parent manipulation and coaching. Mr. Alvar became upset at one point during the visit and stated that the things the children are being told is a form of child abuse and that it needs to end now. Mr. Alvar asked this Guardian ad Litem and Jennifer Brunette, DAIP’s Parenting Time Coordinator to make a report to social services with what was observed today. This writer explained that the visit would be noted in this report, but that even with what Declan was saying throughout the visit, the visit seemed to have gone well overall, and that it was a big improvement to what was reported to have happened during their first visit together a week prior.
Correct, my goal as a parent isn't just to make sure a visitation was good. No, my goal as a parent is more than that. My goal is to make sure my kids are safe and free from trauma 24/7. Isn't that every parents goal? I think if anyone witnessed how my children were acting and the fear they have they would be concerned as well.
After the children left the visit, Mr. Alvar stayed and talked with this writer and Ms. Brunette awhile longer. Mr. Alvar reiterated his concerns and stated that he believes that Ms. Schmidt should have the children removed from her care until she can get treatment for her mental health and that he is scared every day for his children and barely can fall asleep at night. Mr. Alvar shared that his ex-wife and older non-joint children are worried about how much time he has spent on this custody case, and they believe he is prioritizing Declan and Sloane over them. When this writer brought up the idea of therapy, Mr. Alvar stated that he does not have time and has had negative experiences with therapy in the past.
Correct, I said I have family that is worried about how much of a toll this has taken on me. I don't think I would ever state that my children believed that I was prioritizing Declan and Sloane but I can see how they could think that. Yes, I pretty much said therapy is bs. What I told them is I don't need therapy, I need to know my children are safe. See, the State of Minnesota doesn't want to fix the problem. The problem that is right in front of them. They want me to receive treatment for them allowing my children being removed from me all the while suffering trauma and abuse. That is how they fix issues in Minnesota. Proven.
This writer spoke with Ms. Schmidt over the phone after the visit, as well. Ms. Schmidt explained that she is aware with what the children were saying during the visit as Ms. Brunette had told her. Ms. Schmidt expressed feeling “stupid” at this time as she acknowledged what the children said could be looked at as a form of coaching, but she claims she has never told the children to say anything, and she keeps conversations surrounding Mr. Alvar away from them. Ms. Schmidt shared her concerns regarding the supervised visits and continues to fear that if visits were to be unsupervised, Mr. Alvar would kidnap their children.
Just keep piling on the bull shit... See it works. If anyone is ever placed in a situation in court, lie, lie, lie. It will only help you and no one can do anything about it. Because, when it's all said and done and you're found out all you have to say is well, that's what I thought or that's what I felt. Done. Nothing more will come of it. Lie for your benefit as I have only told the truth and look where that's gotten me.
On December 20, 2024, this writer bumped into Ms. Schmidt, Declan, and Sloane in the community. This writer and Ms. Schmidt waved hello and proceeded to continue moving. Declan and Sloane appeared to be in high spirits, excited for what they were doing next, and were both dressed appropriately.
Information from Collateral
The following is information gathered from collateral contacts:
Minnesota’s Government Access
This writer received both parties’ history within MGA. The last 5 years of relevant findings are noted below.
69DU-FA-24-464
On July 12, 2024, Ms. Schmidt filed a petition for an Order for Protection on behalf of Declan and Sloane Alvar. Within Ms. Schmidt’s petition, she detailed the allegations of abuse she had endured from Mr. Alvar. The Court granted the Order for Protection, and the matter was soon after set for a hearing. MGA reflects that a 3-day evidentiary hearing took place on August 21st, August 29th, and September 11, 2024. On October 23, 2024, the Court ordered that the Order for Protection remain in place for Ms. Schmidt, and that custody of the children be addressed in family court. The court found that domestic abuse has occurred including, “episodes of physical, emotional, and verbal abuse over many years.
Within the Court’s Memorandum, it noted that the testimony that took place portrayed a “volatile eight-year relationship.” The Court explained that it was apparent that both Mr. Alvar and Ms. Schmidt have different parenting styles, but after hearing testimony from Mr. Alvar’s non-joint adult daughter, the Court found it as evidence that Mr. Alvar is not a danger to Declan and Sloane.
Correct, Amy received an OFP based on false allegations and the "court" a single referee (not a judge) said all evidence provided by me of Amy and her not being able to control her emotions only proves her testimony and refutes mine. I am still fighting this OFP at this time.
69DU-CR-24-3274
On November 4, 2024, Mr. Alvar was cited with misdemeanor Domestic Abuse Violate OFP. Within the police report, it noted that on November 4, 2024, Ms. Schmidt reported that she received a comment on her business Instagram account from Mr. Alvar. Ms. Schmidt further reported another incident that took place on July 25, 2024, where Mr. Alvar allegedly showed up to Ms. Schmidt’s friend’s property where she was present. It was noted that after asking additional questions, the responding officer was provided Mr. Alvar’s blog/website that was told to be painting Ms. Schmidt in a bad light. The officer noted that Mr. Alvar posted a news article about a woman jumping with her two children into Niagara Falls and was alluding to the fact that he believes Ms. Schmidt is going to do something similar with his children. It was noted that Mr. Alvar had a “count up” timer for the amount of time Ms. Schmidt has allegedly “kidnapped” Declan and Sloane from him. Mr. Alvar’s blog also has photos of himself, Ms. Schmidt, and their children where Ms. Schmidt reported that she has become fearful going out in public because she doesn’t know if someone will recognize her from the photos and worries that someone will try and intervene or take action.
The criminal charges are still pending with the Court. A pre-trial is set for January 30, 2025. A Domestic Abuse No Contact Order was signed and remains in effect until disposition of the case or until further order or modification.
Correct, I'm fighting all of this in court right now. We had a pretrial two weeks ago and due to new evidence and events that I cannot discuss right now. The prosecutor, myself and the Judge decided to have a continuance in this case and it was pushed two months out to allow time for the prosecutor to decide if they want to proceed or drop the charges. There is a lot of wording above but the reality is that only one allegation is being criminally charged here. The allegation of an emoji of the number 100 being sent to Amy. That's it.
St. Louis County Social Services
This writer requested records from St. Louis County Social Services. No assessments were opened as the reports made did not meet the requirements for maltreatment. Ms. Schmidt contacted Social Services on July 5, 2024, requesting volunteer services. Social Services offered services and ended up closing the case on October 4, 2024, as Ms. Schmidt reported that no additional services were needed.
Correct, the State of Minnesota does not engage social services if a child is subjected to mental or emotional abuse even though these acts are illegal. They will only get involved if a child has been physically abused or in the process of being injured. So it comes down to the child has to be getting injured or been injured before they will step in. After the fact. I know this because of the many phone calls I've made and many conversations I've had with many organizations in the State. The only way around this is the person that would be committing the act on themselves or another would need to voluntarily ask for help. We do have services for that.
St. Louis County Sheriff’s Department
On November 1, 2024, this writer received the last 5 years of records from St. Louis County Sheriff’s department. Relevant records are noted below.
On July 3, 2024, Officers responded to a report of a physical domestic assault. Mr. Alvar reported that the night before, Ms. Schmidt had hit him in the face and that she had returned today to collect belongings from their camper. When the police arrived, they talked with both parties and determined they could not find who the primary aggressor was as Mr. Alvar and Ms. Schmidt both reported that the other had instigated and put hands on one another. Officer’s took photos of Mr. Alvar’s cut lip and Ms. Schmidt’s injured leg. It was reported that the children were present during the incident.
This report wasn't read quite accurately. Yes, I called to report an assault on me. I had injuries to my face which were photographed. Amy claimed to have an injury on her leg. The police report states the injury "was not visible". The police report states that they asked Amy if she had any other injuries and she said "no, I don't think so". So the police did not have a photo of her injury because she did not have one. This was one complete day after the incident.
On July 25, 2024, Ms. Schmidt reported a possible OFP violation to the police and explained that she saw Mr. Alvar driving by her address which is in violation of the current OFP order. Ms. Schmidt further reported that Mr. Alvar parked at the dead end past her driveway for several minutes before passing her address again. Ms. Schmidt provided the officer with photos she had taken. It was noted that Ms. Schmidt’s brother also spoke with Mr. Alvar later that day asking him where he had been earlier, and Mr. Alvar reportedly responded, “We all know where I’ve been tonight.” Ms. Schmidt’s brother had a recording where the quote can be heard and sent the recording to the officer as evidence. A charging request was sent to the proper agency.
This has already been covered. But no, this was not "her" address. It was a friends address. When I saw her in the driveway I continued down the road but since it was a dead end I waited a bit for her to get up the driveway to the house and drove back past. Yes, her brother was called by Amy, the same as at their uncle's house. He followed me for many miles but I didn't know who it was. For all I knew it could be anyone. Once I saw who it was I called him and asked him to stop and have a drink with me so we could talk as I was hoping he could help me with his sister. He refused. Yes, he is so sneaky as I did say "we all know where I've been tonight". I never denied it and told law enforcement what happened. They never pressed charges because Amy admitted to law enforcement that I've been to that address many times before and that I wouldn't know she was there. On top of it she was six miles from the address that is included on the OFP. This was in July, five whole months before this report was issued. Why is it included in this report and worded the way that it is? This has been investigated. But because it's included and worded the way that it is it impacts my custody case. It makes me sound like I'm out to get her...
Duluth Police Department
On October 25, 2024, this writer received the last 5 years of history from the Duluth Police Department. One record was found and is noted below.
On August 21, 2024, an officer responded to a report of a possible Order for Protection violation. Ms. Schmidt reported that following an OFP hearing, she picked up her children and proceeded to go out to eat in Canal Park. Ms. Schmidt reported that after she helped her children out of the vehicle, Mr. Alvar was waving at Declan and attempting to get his attention. Ms. Schmidt reported that she put both kids back in the car at that time. Officers spoke with Mr. Alvar after the incident over the phone. Mr. Alvar explained the situation where he and his family were already leaving the restaurant after eating lunch and stated that he did see Ms. Schmidt and Declan in the parking lot after, but it was unintentional. Mr. Alvar stated that he did wave to Declan and reportedly became emotional when telling the officer, stating that he hasn’t seen his kids in 2 months. Mr. Alvar reported that he saw Ms. Schmidt put Declan back into the car. It was noted that both parties acknowledged another possible OFP violation on July 25, 2024. Mr. Alvar reported that it was also not intentional, but he was attempting to have Ms. Schmidt served with child custody paperwork.
Well not 100% accurate but I've already hit on this as well. I never said I waved to Declan. As I was getting into my truck I put my hand up to my chest as "hi buddy". I hadn't seen him in almost two months. I did this while he was standing across from me and just staring at me. At the time I still had the OFP against the kids and by me doing that I was going to get arrested. I argued my way out of that but it took forever. So now looking back on this after having that OFP removed as the court found Amy's allegations of child abuse false. It actually shouldn't matter but again, it's included in this report and worded in such a way that hurts my child custody case. Plus there is no mention of child abuse on behalf of Amy for putting Declan in that situation. Just for me violating an OFP for walking out of a restaurant to my truck and finding Amy standing in front of it with my four year old son.
Hermantown Police Department
This writer requested the last 5 years of records from the Hermantown Police Department. No records were noted to exist for the family.
Hennepin County Sheriff's Office
On October 17, 2024, Hennepin County Sheriff’s Office reported that no records existed for the family within the last 5 years.
Hennepin County Social Services
On October 9, 2024, Hennepin County Social Services reported that no records existed for the family.
Jennifer Brunette, DAIP Parenting Time Program Coordinator
On December 6, 2024, this writer spoke with Ms. Brunette over the phone. Ms. Brunette reported that Declan and Sloane would be coming in that afternoon for their first supervised visit with Mr. Alvar and that she would update this writer after. Ms. Brunette indicated that both parties have shared many concerns prior to the visit, but that she has been able to work with both parents without major issue.
After the visit, Ms. Brunette reported that there was a lot of back and forth, and Declan and Sloane were hard to navigate. Ms. Brunette stated that after a few minutes into the visit, Mr. Alvar wanted law enforcement present so that they could observe and make a report as to what was going on. Ms. Brunette stated that Mr. Alvar also requested that she make a report to social services about the visit, as well.
Ms. Brunette explained that the visit did not go well, and the children immediately ran away from Mr. Alvar and started to scream and refuse to see him. Ms. Brunette stated that she does not know the children well enough, but that Declan did appear to be scared. Ms. Brunette stated that the children appeared fine in the beginning, but once they saw Mr. Alvar, they immediately hid behind her and then Declan reportedly said, “you’re bad.” Ms. Brunette stated that Declan continued to repeat himself and would not go near Mr. Alvar or be touched. Ms. Brunette stated that Sloane went to Mr. Alvar during the visit, and he was able to hold her.
Correct, this is why I had the Guardian ad Litem attend the second visit and again, more evidence of parental alienation. One thing to note about this statement is that Sloane was actually really good with me after a good half an hour. She would sit with me and let me hold her while we played. This never happened again afterwards in the next four visits. So my first visit with her started bad but went great. Then I don't see her for a week and she changed her tune. Well what could cause that? Obviously Declan told Amy everything Sloane was doing that she wasn't supposed to be. Right!?!? Then Amy got on her case for doing what she did. There is no other way to explain it as it wasn't me. I didn't have the kids... How is this not understood???
Ms. Brunette stated that she doesn’t think either parent did anything violently wrong, and she didn’t hear Ms. Schmidt say anything to the children that would encourage the children otherwise. The Officer also reported to Mr. Alvar that they didn’t see anything concerning with mom’s behavior, either. Ms. Brunette reported that the Officer asked Ms. Schmidt why the children were making the specific comments they were, and Ms. Schmidt reported that it was because the last time the children saw Mr. Alvar was during the incident that happened in July of 2024. Ms. Brunette opined that Ms. Schmidt does not appear to be unstable, and she can see that these visits are really hard on her. Ms. Brunette stated that Mr. Alvar expressed his concerns to herself and the officer that Ms. Schmidt is mentally unfit to care for the children and was very clear that he did not want the children to leave with her today. Mr. Alvar continued to say, “What happens if she kills these kids?” and was upset that “no one was listening to him.” Ms. Brunette stated that she will talk with the parents about different strategies for next week’s visit and hopes that it will go better than today. Ms. Brunette ended our conversation stating that she doesn’t see a reason to take the children from either parent forever, but this is the time to help the children safely have visits with their father, and if it is put off for too long, it will need to be moved to a therapeutic setting.
Yep, spend a few minutes with Amy and "she does not appear to be unstable" and "nothing concerning". The State needs a diagnosis for mental health and will not make decisions against Amy based on her behavior. But they use all these tidbits of information from people that have spent very, very little time with her to make decisions in her favor. WTF.
This writer attended the next visit (December 11th) with Mr. Alvar and the children which was noted previously in the report.
On December 18, 2024, Mr. Alvar had another supervised visit with the children. According to Ms. Brunette, the visit went well. Ms. Brunette reported that Declan continued to have some concerning statements towards Mr. Alvar, but Mr. Alvar “handled them with care and consideration.” One of the statements Declan made during the visit was, “You punch mirrors,” where Mr. Alvar reportedly responded with something along the lines of admitting that he did hit a mirror, but it didn’t break. Ms. Brunette stated that Mr. Alvar engaged with both kids the entire time of the visit and let the visit be child-led. Ms. Brunette described the children being happy during and at the end of the visit, and they didn’t express any signs of being uncomfortable. Ms. Brunette explained that she talked with Ms. Schmidt after the visit, and she expressed concerns over what Declan is saying and feels as if everyone will blame her for that. Ms. Brunette reported that she told Ms. Schmidt, “It's possible that Declan is overhearing her conversations and that it might be helpful if they don't connect mom's conversations to coming to the center to see Mr. Alvar.”
Yes, I banged a glass door in the bedroom in the incident when Amy physically assaulted me. The bedroom door was closed so the kids didn't see it. This was proven in court when Amy's attorney was adamant at one point that the door was open so the kids witnessed me holding down their mother after she assaulted me but then took a 180 and was adamant that I couldn't have heard the kids coming to the room after Amy assaulted me because the bedroom door was closed. Confusing right? But yes, the door was closed so the kids didn't see anything. For some reason Amy has focused on this glass door and is telling the kids about it. I'm not 100% sure why but it is my belief that it was a trigger for Amy and she cannot stop focusing on it.
On December 23, 2024, Mr. Alvar had a supervised visit with Declan and Sloane. Ms. Brunette reported that the visit followed the same pattern as before. Declan and Sloane will start off the visit hiding in their little playhouse, and Declan made comments along the lines of he doesn’t have to play with Mr. Alvar and that Ms. Schmidt told them they don’t have to play with him. Ms. Brunette stated after some time goes by, the children ease into the visit with their father, and they appropriately play with one another. Ms. Brunette stated that she has not had any concerns with how Mr. Alvar has interacted with the children and that she believes that the visits could last longer than the scheduled 1.5 hours. Ms. Brunette stated that once they all get playing with one another, it appears that they are all having a great time. Ms. Brunette stated both Declan and Sloane left the visit willingly ready to give their dad a hug.
Correct, as provided in audio recordings Declan says "mom told us not to play with you" or "mom said not to talk to you" etc. Parental alienation.
Ms. Brunette stated that the statements Declan has been making the last few weeks have become a clear pattern. Ms. Brunette explained that Mr. Alvar continues to remain concerned about Ms. Schmidt coaching the children, but she cannot say for certain that is the case. Ms. Brunette said that the family has upcoming visits scheduled, and she will document if there are any concerns.
I would agree, "clear pattern".
Documents provided by Mr. Alvar
On October 16, 2024, Mr. Alvar provided this writer with all the exhibits presented at the Evidentiary Hearing in he and Ms. Schmidt’s OFP file, 69DU-FA-24-464, which was previously noted within this report. These exhibits received were shown to be provided by both Mr. Alvar and Ms. Schmidt and included, family photos, text messages, police reports, pictures of injuries from alleged domestic abuse on both sides, etc.
On December 9, 2024, Mr. Alvar shared his “Letter For Help” and his Blog to this writer.
Mr. Alvar’s “Letter For Help” is a blog posting that was reportedly sent to over one hundred people, including Minnesota’s Governor, Lieutenant Governor, Attorney General, all the House of Representatives, Senate, and many local agencies. The subject of this letter is,
“Please help my two young children before it is too late! This is a mental health crisis, and their lives are at stake. They were taken by their mother on July 2, 2024, who suffers from a mental health disorder. I am appealing to anyone and everyone I can that is responsible for their safety. If you were not aware of their situation, you are now and now have become liable. If you have been aware, you have always been liable.”
Mr. Alvar continues within the post to talk about his story and shared links to police reports, court documents, pictures, recordings, etc. Mr. Alvar also provided a news article where it described a mother who killed her son, despite child services being involved, stating that the crime was preventable. Mr. Alvar ends the article asking for any and all help for he and his children.
I stated the crime was preventable but if you read the article and realized that Dakota County in Minnesota settled with the murdered child's father due to the fact that the State of Minnesota should have never given custody of the child to the mother, that would indicate the crime was preventable as well.
Mr. Alvar’s Blog titled, “End the Cycle,” opens to pictures of he and Ms. Schmidt together smiling and photos of their two minor children. Underneath is a count-up timer, explaining the “Time since my two youngest children were kidnapped.” Mr. Alvar posts about his story, detailing with pictures, court documents, news articles, recordings, etc., and places blame on the court system, and many local agencies, for the ongoing situation he is experiencing. Mr. Alvar suggests changes that are needed to “end the cycle.” Mr. Alvar reports,
“End the cycle for me means ending intergenerational abuse due to generational cycles of violence by bringing awareness of how untreated persons with past trauma can easily continue this abusive cycle with the help of unknowing individuals, domestic abuse advocates and government agencies.”
Documents provided by Ms. Schmidt
Ms. Schmidt also provided this writer with exhibits that were presented at the Evidentiary Hearing in she and Mr. Alvar’s OFP file, 69DU-FA-24-464. Ms. Schmidt shared Mr. Alvar’s recent Facebook posts referring to his version of what has been going on with his family and asking his followers to subscribe to his new Blog.
Ms. Schmidt shared a letter that Mr. Alvar allegedly sent to their mediators and her attorney before the SENE in November 2024. In the letter addressed to Ms. Schmidt, Mr. Alvar states that he loves her, and it “is not her fault” as he didn’t know what she was going through. Mr. Alvar shared that he is still there for Ms. Schmidt and that he misses her along with other words of love and care for Ms. Schmidt. Mr. Alvar also allegedly sent a book to Ms. Schmidt’s attorney titled, “I hate you – Don’t leave me: Understanding the Borderline Personality.”
Correct, I saw this as my last attempt before moving forward with the lawsuit against Amy to gain custody of my children. I threw one last hail mary hoping she would end this. She had nothing to say after reading it.
Here it is:
I did send that book to Amy's attorney because I thought a young attorney should have an understanding about mental health if they were to be representing the public. Especially borderline personality disorder. It's a good read if you want to understand it. It helps make sense of everything that is going on here.
Here it is on Audible:
Here it is on Amazon:
Ms. Schmidt also shared documents of her and Mr. Alvar’s shared drive where Mr. Alvar had multiple scripts for what Ms. Schmidt reports she believes were for the witnesses he had testified in their OFP file, or witnesses he plans to call for their custody evidentiary hearing. Ms. Schmidt also provided a recording she found in their shared drive of the ICMC hearing she and Mr. Alvar participated in on November 19, 2024. In the audio, it is notably clear that Mr. Alvar was the one recording the court hearing. Some documents appeared to be many record requests on Ms. Schmidt and her friends, from Mr. Alvar to different police agencies. Many documents were provided within this drive that were concerning to Ms. Schmidt where she reports to have released the information to an investigator.
Correct, these are my court case files.
Ms. Schmidt provided this writer with a recording of the property exchange incident on December 6, 2024. Ms. Schmidt’s brother, Mr. Schmidt was reported to be the one recording the incident. The recording is summarized below.
Mr. Alvar reported that he was dropping off belongings of Ms. Schmidt’s and Mr. Schmidt told him to leave his uncle’s property. Mr. Alvar addressed the uncle and reiterated that he just agreed that Mr. Alvar could drop Ms. Schmidt’s stuff off. Mr. Alvar and Mr. Schmidt continued to argue with one another in an aggressive manner where then Ms. Schmidt’s uncle proceeded to tell Mr. Alvar to get off the property saying that he changed his mind and that he no longer wanted to be involved.
Mr. Alvar stated that he was just trying to help Ms. Schmidt and asked her uncle if he knew what she has been through and asked if he even cared. Mr. Alvar proceeded to tell Ms. Schmidt’s uncle that Ms. Schmidt was sexually assaulted by her father, abused by her mother, and that no one in Ms. Schmidt’s family seems to care. Mr. Schmidt told Mr. Alvar that if he really cared for Ms. Schmidt, then he would leave the property. Mr. Alvar said no. Mr. Alvar then asked Ms. Schmidt’s uncle if he knew why Ms. Schmidt did not want Mr. Alvar to come there. Mr. Alvar continued to tell Ms. Schmidt’s uncle it was because Ms. Schmidt said he was mentally unstable. Ms. Schmidt’s uncle stated that she did not say that, and Mr. Alvar stated he has proof of the statement.
Correct, as already stated in this post. The first email string between her attorney and me she states her uncle has mental health issues. In the police report between her and her mother she states her mother has a undiagnosed mental health disorder. She can dish it out to her family but has a problem accepting it upon herself.
Mr. Schmidt and Mr. Alvar continued to argue with one another in the recording. At one point Mr. Alvar said, “Your family is going down and you’re going to lose these kids forever.” The police were called and arrived shortly after. Police talked with Mr. Alvar and stated that they just told him on the phone to not go to Ms. Schmidt’s uncle’s home and that the property exchange was no longer taking place. The police stated that they have it all recorded, and it will be documented, but Mr. Alvar told police he did not care and that he was proceeding to do the property exchange, anyway. Mr. Alvar tried backtracking, stating that he misunderstood. Mr. Alvar ultimately was asked to leave the residence.
Correct, I said that to Amy's brother. By the time this is all said and done their family will be found out and they will never see these kids again. Reason being, I will not allow my children to be subjected to the violent physical, mental and emotional abuse that controls them. They have all proven unworthy of my children and unsafe for them as well. There is no law against keeping children away from their extended family. Especially when their safety, mental and emotional well being is at stake.
Again, I had messaged Amy's attorney that I was going to contact Amy's uncle to ask if he'll help us with the exchange. Four days prior. This is Amy's uncle, her family, not mine. These are items that she wanted, not me. I went out of my way to accomplish this while I was in Duluth that day. I went to her uncle's home to ask him if he would help us and he said yes, for me to put the items in his garage. I then had to go get the items out of storage because I didn't have them with me as I wanted to get his approval first. Which I did as Amy's uncle said yes, it's okay. When I returned and was halfway unloaded Amy's brother came out and attacked me and was trying to get me to hit him. As you can hear in the audio recording that the Guardian ad Litem has heard. I also have it recorded but am not providing it due to its criminal ties in an investigation.
Here is a picture of my leg from the incident. This is only one of several injuries:
The Guardian ad Litem is making statements without having all the information including my recordings that include audio with law enforcement. When the officer called me when I was almost back to Amy's uncles house she said I shouldn't go there because Amy's brother was there. I was very confused because he shouldn't have been there, as he's never there. He does not visit this uncle ever. I know because Amy and I would visit Amy's uncle and he would state every time that he never comes over and they don't know the last time they saw him. Also, during my phone conversation with the officer she was confused because she thought that I didn't have permission to be there. But when I told her I had spoken to Amy's uncle just before and he said yes, it was okay. She didn't know that at first.
I did not say that I didn't care about what law enforcement was saying, what I said was, I didn't care that Amy's brother was there. When I was questioned why would I still go there if he was there I said I wasn't worried about him. If you saw the guy you would realize why. I told law enforcement that just because he says I can't be there doesn't mean I'm not going to complete what was agreed to as he had nothing to do with it. What I didn't realize at this time was that Amy's uncle called Amy to tell her what we were doing, she then called her brother to go there and confront me.
The main point here is these were items that Amy supposedly wants and here I am going out of my way to give them to her. Mind you, four days after telling her attorney exactly what I was going to do. She then goes out of her way to prevent me from doing so. Look what transpired. For what? How can the State not see the mental health issue in not only Amy but her family. Again, these are the people that have my children in their care.
On January 2, 2025, Ms. Schmidt provided this writer a video recording showing Mr. Alvar outside Safe Haven, a shelter and resource center in Duluth. In the recording, Mr. Alvar is shown to be outside the building holding a very large, printed sign. The sign states, “Kidnapped July 2, 2024.” The sign also shows a link to Mr. Alvar’s blog, 3 pictures of Mr. Alvar and the children, and insinuates that Safe Haven supports domestic violence against men and children.
True, I have stood outside the Duluth courthouse and Safe Haven across the street with a sign stating this as I'm getting as loud as I can. I have met many people asking my story and offering to help. I have heard so many similar stories that at times it's very discouraging but then it also makes me realize someone needs to fight this fight so here I am. How else do you get your story out there and make the public aware of injustices in our system if you don't put yourself out there. Mind you, I have every legal right to do so. As this is included in this report am I to assume the State of Minnesota has an issue with me exercising my legal rights?
This Guardian ad Litem received 100’s of pages of documents, pictures, and recordings, from the parties of their findings, evidence, and concerns. This writer did explain to both parties that not all documents would be used in this investigation, but if the case proceeds to trial, they will have the opportunity to explain their documents to the Court at that time. This writer wrote this report reviewing documents that were helpful on determining temporary recommendations for the family. Further review of provided documents and new collateral sources may be included when this writer makes permanent recommendations for the family.
Based on these comments everything that was reviewed and witnessed caused this writer, the Guardian ad Litem to determine Amy should continue to have 100% physical and legal custody of our children. I don't understand...
Information from References
The following is information gathered from references:
Christy Alvar, Mr. Alvar’s Personal Reference
On November 27, 2024, this writer spoke with Ms. Alvar over the phone. Ms. Alvar reported that she is Mr. Alvar’s mother and that she sees Mr. Alvar once every couple of weeks, but when he and Ms. Schmidt were traveling, she would keep in touch through Zoom or texting. Ms. Alvar stated that she would often Zoom the children and that their family would come stay at her home during the summer months.
Ms. Alvar shared that she witnessed Mr. Alvar spending a lot of time with Declan and Sloane and that he would be completely involved. Ms. Alvar stated that she watched Mr. Alvar show his affection towards the children, change their diapers, do the bathing, etc. Ms. Alvar explained that Mr. Alvar was also very involved with his two older children, as well. Ms. Alvar stated that she did not witness anything inappropriate by Mr. Alvar, that she didn’t see the children getting into trouble, and that Mr. Alvar seemed to do a good job caring for them. Ms. Alvar claimed that she never had any concerns with how Mr. Alvar cared for any of his children.
Ms. Alvar shared that she believes that Mr. Alvar should have the children in his care full time. Ms. Alvar stated that she worries what the children are being told during this time and worries that fear is being instilled into them. Ms. Alvar shared that she has spoken with Ms. Schmidt in the past about her constantly screaming at the children, and that Ms. Schmidt acknowledged that she shouldn’t do that, but she continues to worry that Ms. Schmidt could still be doing it. Ms. Alvar explained that she is worried about Ms. Schmidt’s stability and feels like she needs help. Ms. Alvar ended our conversation stating that she worries about the children every day and is sad that her whole family has been “alienated” from them.
Should be a red flag for the State, Amy has alienated the entire family including Grandma and Grandpa but nope, it isn't.
One thing to point out is that I asked the Guardian ad Litem to not contact my mother for this interview as I had just gained knowledge of one of Amy's very good friends speaking out against her. When I talked to the Guardian ad Litem about this and asked how much weight my mother's testimony would be compared to one of Amy's friends she stated that my mother's testimony wouldn't carry as much weight. I told her don't call her and let me get in touch with Amy's friend. I found out before I was able to get in touch with Amy's friend that the Guardian ad Litem already spoke to my mother. She said she forgot. Okay, but the testimony from Amy's friend was "I feel so bad for Ryan" and "I've spent years listening to Amy complain about her mother and here she is acting just like her". I know that interview would have carried a lot of weight with the courts.
Haven Alvar, Mr. Alvar’s Personal Reference
This writer spoke with Ms. Haven Alvar over the phone on December 27, 2024. Ms. Haven Alvar indicated that she is Mr. Alvar’s 21-year-old non-joint daughter. According to Ms. Haven Alvar, she and her dad text often and try to get together once a week or every other week. Ms. Haven Alvar stated that she last saw her father a few days ago on Christmas and that she would like to see him more, but she has been quite busy.
Ms. Haven Alvar shared that prior to July 2024, every time she would visit with her father, he had Sloane and Declan with him. Ms. Haven Alvar explained that she observed how close Mr. Alvar was with his two younger children, and they always were asking Mr. Alvar to play with them and that he would do so. Ms. Haven Alvar stated that Mr. Alvar would even stop working sometimes when they asked to play. Ms. Haven Alvar shared that she watched her dad set boundaries with Sloane and Declan and have to put them in timeout, but that Mr. Alvar is generally a calm person, where she never saw him express his anger towards her or any of his children. Ms. Haven Alvar claimed that she has never had any worries with how Mr. Alvar cared for Sloane and Declan and that Mr. Alvar has always been supportive and she knows he would do anything for his children.
Statements Haven makes here reminds me of times when Amy would get upset with me and I'd have to help her through it. Such as, most times we would sit down as a family and I had two kids on my lap and she wouldn't have any. She would get upset and I would have to reassure her that earlier the kids had asked about her. This seemed to make her feel better about it and it would snap her back out of it. I went from two kids on my lap to two kids telling me I'm bad overnight and I wasn't even around them to change that. WTF
Ms. Haven Alvar expressed that she believes her father should have “the majority” of custody of Sloane and Declan as he has always been their family’s biggest financial support, and Mr. Alvar was always with them, caring for them, and playing with them. Ms. Haven Alvar stated that Ms. Schmidt should be allowed to have parenting time, as it is important for kids to see both their parents, and she used to consider Ms. Schmidt a second mom, but she worries about the children’s mental health and wellbeing. Ms. Haven Alvar stated that she is concerned that Ms. Schmidt has “cut off” Mr. Alvar’s whole side of the family and that she, her 16-year-old non-joint brother, her grandparents, etc., have not seen Declan and Sloane since the past summer. Ms. Haven Alvar stated that since July 2024, Ms. Schmidt blocked her on all communication.
This is another great point that should be a red flag for the State. Amy cut off two of her step children that were in her life for a very long time. Amy would call herself their bonus mom. She was around for half of their lives and the half of their lives that actually matters as they wouldn't remember their younger years. Right?!?!? Beyond that she has separated these siblings as she's not allowing Haven and William to see Declan and Slone. Why? Why are Declan and Sloane saying that Amy is saying that Haven and William bad? In the OFP case this was never mentioned and there was no evidence provided. But now, again, adding more to the pile.
Billy Ciaccio, Ms. Schmidt’s Personal Reference
This writer spoke with Ms. Ciaccio over the phone on November 27, 2024. Ms. Ciaccio explained that she has been Ms. Schmidt’s friend since grade school. Ms. Ciaccio stated that she and Ms. Schmidt both moved around a lot in their twenties, but they were able to continue their friendship. Ms. Ciaccio shared that since Ms. Schmidt has moved back into the area, they try and spend time with each other once a month but talk on the phone almost every day.
So this is Amy's friend from when they were kids. They lost touch for 10 - 15 years but started hanging out again while Amy and I were together. Maybe six years ago as it was after we left Colorado.
Ms. Ciaccio reported that she believes Ms. Schmidt is a great mother. Ms. Ciaccio said that she has watched Ms. Schmidt set appropriate boundaries with her children, get down on their level and communicate, snuggle her children, and has seen her become overly protective of both Declan and Sloane, but she perceives that as a good thing. Ms. Ciaccio explained that she has not had any type of concern with how Ms. Schmidt has cared for her children and knows that she loves them very much. Ms. Ciaccio claimed that she has seen Ms. Schmidt upset on a few different occasions, but that she does a very good job shielding her emotions in front of the kids. Ms. Ciaccio claimed that Ms. Schmidt is one of the very few people she trusts to watch her own children.
This isn't saying much. Did the Guardian ad Litem do a background check on this interviewee and/or does she know her history? I assume not. Let's see, a simple background check would provide her with several drug and alcohol convictions. The most concerning one for me is when she was facing drug charges while living in Florida her mother bailed her out of jail. She then traveled back to Minnesota and wiggled her way into not having to attend court in person because she was along too far with her pregnancy. So yeah, I would assume someone that is pregnant and facing drug charges would trust someone else to watch her children. Because most anyone else would be better to do it.
Amy also shared stories of their childhood together. Such as parties at Ms. Ciaccio's home as teenagers and Ms. Ciaccio's mother offering cocaine to them.
When interviewing others in the Schmidt family Ms. Ciaccio's past history with drug use was brought up without being questioned about it.
Ms. Ciaccio does have three children of her own by three different fathers. I'm not trying to bash the fact of three different fathers but she goes out of her way to find the worst kind of person to father her children. These ghetto men are not involved in their children's lives and do nothing to support her. They can't. Because they can't even support themselves. These are her life choices. Fine. It does not affect me until it does. So now this person is interviewed and her statements are affecting me. My only way to provide a weight to her statements is to tell the truth. My life will not be directed by lifes lowest common denominator. It seems our nation is okay with this, I am not.
According to Ms. Ciaccio, she is aware of the allegations Mr. Alvar has been making, as she has talked with Ms. Schmidt and has seen Mr. Alvar’s webpage he created about their family. Ms. Ciaccio explained that she has never worried about Ms. Schmidt’s mental health but is worried with all that Mr. Alvar is allegedly putting Ms. Schmidt through at this time as his approach is “very extreme.” Ms. Ciaccio said she is worried that Mr. Alvar will hurt Declan and Sloane, or if Mr. Alvar gets the children alone in his care, he will take off with them. Ms. Ciaccio ended our conversation stating that Ms. Schmidt would do anything for her children and opined that the children are safest in her care.
Ms. Ciaccio was one of Amy's witnesses in the OFP case. In cross examination she was questioned on the stand and asked, have you ever witnessed Ryan being anything other than loving to Amy or his children and she honestly answered, no. This is in the court record. Now she is piling it on. Humm, I wonder if Amy and her talked about this?!?! How can you go from making that statement in court and then making a complete 180 not long after? How can the State use testimony such as this in their decision making? Especially since they have both conflicting statements right in front of them.
Ms. Ciaccio had stated on the witness stand that Amy had told her for years that she was being abused by me. When she was questioned in cross examination she was asked in all those years did she ever confront me and she stated no. She was asked if she cared about Amy and she said yes. She was then asked if she cared about Amy and was being told she was being abused by me why didn't she say or do anything and she answered that it wasn't her place to do so. She admitted that she would have me over to her home and we would see each other throughout the years. She never once confronted me, or acted like there was an issue. In fact she admitted that she was always kind to me and gave me hugs when we met or left. So she either didn't believe Amy or did, and didn't do anything about her best friends alleged abuse. I think this shows a bigger problem in our society. Your best friend is reaching out to you because of alleged abuse and you do nothing. WTF. We live in a sick world full of weak people.
Ryan Schmidt, Ms. Schmidt’s Personal Reference
On December 18, 2024, this writer spoke to Mr. Schmidt over the phone. Mr. Schmidt indicated that he is Ms. Schmidt’s brother, and since Ms. Schmidt moved back to the Duluth area, he sees her with Declan and Sloane quite often. Mr. Schmidt explained that he believes Ms. Schmidt cares for her children like any normal parent does. Mr. Schmidt claimed that he has never seen anything out of the ordinary with how Ms. Schmidt parents, and she has reportedly been observed to be very affectionate, caring, and the children seemed to be attached to her hip. Mr. Schmidt said he never had any type of concern with how Ms. Schmidt has cared for her children and that even when Ms. Schmidt becomes frustrated, she will make sure to talk about it after the children go to bed, or they are in the other room.
You have to remember "normal" in their family isn't acceptable to most. Including mine.
According to Mr. Schmidt, Mr. Alvar has tried talking with him about the concerns he has about Ms. Schmidt’s mental health, but he has never had those types of concerns. Mr. Schmidt shared that the last time he spoke with Mr. Alvar was when he tried to come drop off belongings where Mr. Alvar become very upset, and at one point, Mr. Alvar allegedly flashed a knife at him. Mr. Schmidt stated that he recorded the incident. Mr. Schmidt pointed out that if anyone has a mental health issue, it would be Mr. Alvar as he goes from calm to a psychotic rage in a split second. Mr. Schmidt claimed that if Mr. Alvar got custody of the children, he will take them and disappear. Mr. Schmidt stated that he believes it is good that the children are having supervised visits with their father, but if Mr. Alvar can’t follow the rules, his rights should be taken away.
How can the State include statements such as this in this report, "flashed a knife at him". Amy's brother is referring to the incident at their uncle's house in which I already covered. Since this whole situation started back in July I have been recording everything including this incident. That was a cold day and I had my jacket on. My audio recorder was sticking out of my pocket and at one point got caught on my jacket. I struggled to free it from my jacket so I lifted my jacket over it. As I did Amy's brother made a comment like "I just saw that" or something like that and I was like oh, okay. Thinking I don't care that you saw I'm recording this. Now he says I flashed a knife at him? I have never carried a knife in my life and since law enforcement was onsite don't you think he would have mentioned this to them? Don't you think they would have searched me as me carrying a knife and flashing it at him is a threat. But nope, pile it on and include it in this report without investigating it.
What psychotic rage is he speaking of? Is he referring to the time he was caught trespassing after law enforcement told him not to? When he was caught trying to move my motorcycle trailer out of the way to steal my fifth wheel? Is he talking about when Amy stated in court that they weren't there to take it but then Mr. Schmidt admitted in cross examination that they had a tow truck on standby to take it? Or the time he showed up at his uncle's house when I was unloading some furniture for Amy and he attacked me? Those are the only two times we had a disagreement and in those two times I spoke to him. I was never physical. He was. He is the one trying to get me to hit him. It's all recorded and this Guardian ad Litem heard it. His defence in court for him acting the way he did is because he said "I wanted to hit him". Yep, again, despite our bill of rights it becomes a factual statement in court that because Mr. Schmidt states that I wanted to hit him without, doing so, making motion to, stating so, but because of his belief that I wanted to hit him it becomes fact. WTF
If I get custody of the kids I'll take them and disappear? Again, piling it on. Or maybe he's confused. Maybe he is referring to the fact that's what Amy did with support of the State of Minnesota. Right?!?! He's worried about me doing exactly what his sister did. How does that make sense?
What rules am I not following? I'm petitioning the court for custody of my children. Everything I have done I have a legal right to do so. I am following every rule.
Again, my life and my family is having restrictions placed on it based on testimony from this individual. The sad thing is again the court is taking testimony from the lowest common denominator. I have a few stories I'd like to share about this witness.
Amy told me a story about the time years ago as an adult she bought a new car. She was living on her own and she was happy with her new purchase. For some reason her mother was not. She was upset that Amy had this car and decided to take it from her. This is her mothers action against an adult child. Amy's mother enlisted Mr. Schmidt, Amy's brother to help do so. So they did. The two of them stole Amy's car and Amy had to fight to get it back. Nice family huh? This is Amy's family... This is Amy's brother.
The last time I spent time with Amy's brother, Mr. Schmidt was in June of 2024. We were over at their house hanging out as we would do from time to time. We were outside and the kids were playing with the water table and Mr. Schmidt's daughter Hazel had done something Mr. Schmidt didn't like so he hit her over the head with his hand. I was taken back by it as I thought it was out of line and totally rude of him to do. Especially since she was only six years old at the time. This is his own flesh and blood. Although he does treat her better than he does his significant other Kelly's son Dom. I would have to sum up their relationship as Dom is the red headed step child. In almost nine years I have never witnessed Mr. Schmidt showing any act of love or respect for Dom. I have never seen him hug him or give him any form of affection. In fact, it seems that whenever Dom speaks Mr. Schmidt is quick to interject and put him down. I cannot think of a time when Dom has made a statement without Mr. Schmidt interjecting or putting him down in some way. I'm sure the kid feels like he cannot do or say anything right and I have always felt bad for him. I'm sure being raised like that has had an affect on him. I have had these conversations with Amy over the years and she admits by stating, "my brother is an asshole". I know many would agree but the sad truth is him growing up in the same environment that Amy did most likely caused him childhood trauma as well. How could it not have.
Mr. Schmidt and Kelly lost their right to be an uncle and aunt to my kids. An uncle and aunt's job is to help protect their family and support them. From July 2nd, 2024 to today they have not done that. In fact, they have gone out of their way to help destroy our family and allow these kids to be subjected to additional trauma and abuse. Even after my several attempts at reaching out to Mr. Schmidt to no avail. I will never forgive him or Kelly for their actions. I will also never forget me removing all of my belongings from my home while being escorted by law enforcement. I was given a couple of hours to do so all the while I had Kelly making snide comments and looking over my shoulder making sure I wasn't stealing anything. Stealing my own belongings, or belongings I paid for, for my family. All the while I was going out of my way to make sure Amy had everything she needed to take care of herself and our children. That family has no place in my children's future and my children will be better off for it.
Family Strengths
The following are the strengths of the family:
Declan and Sloane were both observed to be happy and healthy.
Both parties express care and concern for their children’s well-being and a desire to meet their needs.
Mr. Alvar has consistently taken advantage of parenting time per the current agreed upon schedule.
Ms. Schmidt has demonstrated an ability to access resources as needed.
Areas of Concern
The following are areas of concern:
The parties have never co-parented with one another and have reluctance to do so.
The allegations of domestic violence between the parties.
Declan and Sloane witnessing domestic violence between the parties and allegedly experiencing domestic abuse themselves.
Mr. Alvar making claims (and posting on multiple internet platforms) that Ms. Schmidt is unfit to care for their children due to her alleged undiagnosed mental health disorder.
Mr. Alvar allegedly making threats that he would take the children and that Ms. Schmidt will lose custody of the children due to her alleged undiagnosed mental health disorder.
The allegations that Ms. Schmidt is coaching the children.
I'm not worried about us co-parenting at this point. I'm worried about my children's safety.
No, no, no.
Per all evidence and statements in court Declan and Sloane have never witnessed domestic abuse. They didn't witness Amy physically assaulting me because the bedroom door was shut. Fact in court statements. When they did come into the bedroom they witnessed me holding Amy. Fact in court statements. No witnessing of domestic abuse.
Per a State of Minnesota court order the State found Amy's allegations of child abuse to be false and the children were removed in the final order. The State cannot state there is no child abuse in one instance and then turn around and state there is because at one time, before the allegations were proven false it was alleged that there was. Can't do it. You have to stop and move forward as this has been decided in court.
I have the legal right to protect my family and provide evidence that the State of Minnesota is not able to properly handle cases that deal with mental health. I also have the legal right to provide the public their own public record.
Yes, if she continues to traumatize these children and refuses to get help I am going to do whatever I can to protect them. If that includes getting full custody of them from the court, that means the court would have to agree that it is in the best interest of the children. As I've said from the beginning and every chance since. We would move forward until Amy gets the help she needs and custody would change based on her ability to parent our children. These decisions are not solely mine as I cannot make them myself. I can only request what is in the best interest of the kids and the court would have to agree.
It's pretty sad that at this point in the report "allegations" is included with coaching the children. It is clear, it has been proven, it has been witnessed by the writer of this report and included by several others to be true. Including the third party visitation center. I have not had these kids since July 2nd, 2024 therefore there is only one other source for the coaching / parental alienation. It should be very easy to understand.
Summary of Guardian ad Litem
The following is a summary of this case:
Declan and Sloane are the minor children of Mr. Alvar and Ms. Schmidt. Mr. Alvar and Ms. Schmidt have both reported many negative experiences with each other over the course of their 8-year relationship. Both parties report many acts of alleged domestic violence within the relationship in which some were reported to have been witnessed by the minor children.
Nope, Amy states that to be true but again, court evidence proves these children have never witnessed domestic violence.
In July 2024, Ms. Schmidt filed a petition for an Order for Protection detailing the alleged domestic abuse that had occurred. After an Evidentiary hearing on the OFP matter, the Court found that domestic abuse did occur, ordered that the OFP stay in place for Ms. Schmidt, and that custody of the children be addressed in family court. Mr. Alvar is adamant that Ms. Schmidt’s allegations are false and reported that he will continue to fight in attempt to reverse the Court’s order. In accordance with the Court’s findings in the OFP case, this writer would recommend that both parties continue having no contact with one another as both parties have very strong negative emotions toward one other and that contact with one another would not be in the children’s best interest at this time.
Not 100% accurate. In July 2024 I was physically assaulted by Amy, I called law enforcement and reported an assault on me per all court evidence. Amy was not assaulted, and Amy did not call law enforcement as recorded in all court evidence. At that time I told Amy I would be petitioning custody of the children which I did. Per all court evidence I started this process on July 5th with documents dated July 5th and 6th in the record. Amy then requested an emergency OFP on July 10th based on false allegations which was approved by the court on July 12th. This approval was by the court taking her word for it without any investigation into the alleged allegations. Including false statements of prior domestic abuse convictions and that law enforcement wasn't called for the most recent incident. The incident where she physically assaulted me and I called to report it. I'll spell it out. Amy is in the wrong, she doesn't want to be found out, she doesn't want to lose her kids and she will do anything and everything to make sure that doesn't happen. Proven with every word out of her mouth and every action she has taken since July 2024. How do I know this? Because I've never assaulted anyone, including Amy. How should you know this? Investigate, read the court evidence, police reports from law enforcement, etc. It's not hard to understand. Do you wonder why I'm worried about the safety of my children and Amy. Look at what she's doing! Look at what she's capable of! What will she do if she feels like she has nowhere to go?!?!?
Both parties participated in mediation in November 2024, and came up with a temporary agreement. On December 6, 2024, Mr. Alvar started having supervised visits with the children on a weekly basis. It was reported that the first visit didn’t start on the greatest note, but this writer has been informed that the visits have continued to improve where Ms. Brunette indicated that she believes that Mr. Alvar and the children could start expanding their time together in the center.
Not 100% accurate. As Ms. Brunette stated every visit the kids run and hide from me and make concerning comments. As time goes on the wall breaks down and by the end of the visit the kids are good and don't want to leave. This is every visit. There is a big difference between the two statements because if you don't state it accurately the report doesn'ts prove the parental alienation that is going on every week.
Both parties agreed to take psychological evaluations with a parenting component. The evaluations have yet to be completed, but Mr. Alvar has taken it upon himself to let as many people know that Ms. Schmidt has an undiagnosed personality disorder. Mr. Alvar reported that during his 8-year relationship with Ms. Schmidt, Ms. Schmidt never told him that she was sexually assaulted by her father as a child. Mr. Alvar took this as a red flag as he believes that Ms. Schmidt’s past trauma has not been addressed. Mr. Alvar connected her unaddressed trauma to her alleged abusive behavior towards himself and their children in the past years. Mr. Alvar also posted on internet platforms about Ms. Schmidt’s traumatic past.
Well I could say she's fucking crazy but that wouldn't be as acceptable. Right?!?! Why am I getting loud before this is all said and done in court? Because my children's safety cannot wait that long. Also, I've been publicly facing allegations of domestic abuse and child abuse. I have a right to publicly defend myself. I have many friends, family members, customers, etc. How would it look if I didn't defend myself? What would happen if I suddenly died tomorrow and had never publicly defended myself and waited for the court process to play out? No one would know the truth! The truth being the kids are not safe and Amy needs help. No matter if I'm alive or dead. That fact does not change. Also, what this reporter must not understand is, I'm not the kind of person to just go along with an injustice. When needed I'll be the first to stand up for myself, my family or anyone else needing my help. Including the writer of this report. If you need help, I'll be there. Maybe then she'll understand.
What I don't understand is why a lifetime of trauma including extreme childhood trauma is not a red flag for the State of Minnesota? Yes, because that's how mental health disorders work. Generally resulting from past trauma, especially past childhood trauma. Then there's behavior based on their mental health disorder that is usually pretty evident and specific. That's how someone gets diagnosed with a disorder. That's why I'm so vocal on understanding mental health. That's why I have pushed for the courts to require Amy to undergo a psychological evaluation.
Mr. Alvar’s blog mentions spreading awareness to the issues in our legal system and society and asks for help making impactful change. This writer believes that Mr. Alvar is trying to speak his truth throughout his blog, but also believes his posts could be interpreted as a smear campaign towards Ms. Schmidt. With an active OFP in place and the fear that Ms. Schmidt has voiced repeatedly, Mr. Alvar continues to place blame on the system and share his negative experiences with Ms. Schmidt in the last 8 years. However, Mr. Alvar reports that Ms. Schmidt isn’t to blame either, alleging that she suffers from undiagnosed mental health disorders. This writer is highly concerned with Mr. Alvar trying to link Ms. Schmidt’s behavior to cases where other mothers have murdered their children. Ms. Schmidt has seen Mr. Alvar’s blog and expressed that she worries that Mr. Alvar will kill the children himself, blame her, and tell the world, “I told you so.” Mr. Alvar claims that Ms. Alvar will be the next mother to kill her children. Mr. Alvar has made reports to social services and has requested police presence at DAIP’s parenting time center to witness what occurred during his first supervised visit. Social services have not opened any sort of family assessment as of the writing of this report, and it was reported that the officer who attended the visit did not find any reason to believe that the children were at risk being in the care of Ms. Schmidt.
Anyone can interpret something different. I'll give you an exercise. Contact the St. Louis County Courthouse Administrative office and ask a question. Then call back throughout the day and speak to three different people. By the end of the day you'll have four different answers. Guaranteed.
Well, it's a fact that when someone has an untreated mental health disorder and refuses to get help for it there is a higher chance of them harming themselves or others. It's proven every day on the news including in the State of Minnesota. Our own government tells us, if you see something, say something. How do I know there's and issue? Based on nine years of knowing Amy. Based on our interactions. Based on her not being able to control her emotions. Based on her screaming at a two year old to take a nap. Based on her falsely accusing me of domestic abuse. Based on her falsely accusing me of child abuse. Based on her alienating the kids. Based on police reports where I'm not even involved between Amy and her mother, her mother acting out, acting the same way Amy does now and Amy stating to the police her mother needs help and that she has an undiagnosed mental health disorder. Amy's mother saying that everytime Amy comes over she causes problems and that she stated her last two relationships had ended and they were trying to kill her. This is not all from me. Many know there are issues. Many reports and statements prove it. The problem is no one is listening.
Here's a copy of that report even tho you already have it:
Talking about piling it on. Amy is worried that I will kill the kids? Blame her and tell the world, I told you so? What? All I can say is holy shit. That's a new one.
Clearly the Guardian ad Litem has zero understanding of what is going on and has no interest in protecting my children. It's obvious in this paragraph. Yep, I agree, every person involved in this case who have spent a total of minutes to the most hours working this case has it figured out. If there was an issue someone would have removed these kids from Amy's care. Right!?!? Wow. FML
Mr. Alvar may continue with his goal to “spread awareness,” etc., but this writer believes that including the names and pictures of Ms. Schmidt and the children on a public forum, places all of them at risk for potential harm. Mr. Alvar states his goal down the line is to share custody with Ms. Schmidt. This writer is not sure how or when these parties will be able to communicate with one another, however, by continuing to make public allegations about his personal beliefs, this writer believes that Mr. Alvar is showing that he is not willing to co-parent with Ms. Schmidt.
No, at this point if Amy is unwilling to get help for herself I am not willing to co-parent. That is why she needs to get help, get better and then we can move forward. I will not subject my children to this weekly tug of war of trauma which is what they're experiencing. Once she is healthy and understands how her actions affects these kids and makes an honest attempt at being a healthy parent, then I will co-parent as I have proven I'm able to do.
This writer spoke with Ms. Schmidt on multiple occasions, Ms. Schmidt’s references, Ms. Brunette, and reviewed multiple collateral sources regarding Ms. Schmidt. This writer could not find reason to substantiate the claims that the children are at risk being in the care of their mother. As this writer told Mr. Alvar, even if Ms. Schmidt is diagnosed with a mental health disorder, it does not solely determine that she is unfit to care for their children. Ms. Schmidt agreed to undergo a psychological evaluation and agreed to follow all recommendations given. Mr. Alvar should respect the process and respect the outcome of the assessment and recommendations.
I agree, a mental health diagnosis should not be the reason for a change in custody. Her behavior, the safety of the children and her illegal actions should be the determining factor. I've been saying this all along. Especially to the writer of this report. So again, the State of Minnesota is requiring one action (a mental health diagnosis before doing anything), then stating a mental health diagnosis will not determine the case. Correct, her behavior is the issue and should be the determining factor. But for some reason it isn't. Make up your mind. Also, I should respect the process and respect the outcome? How the hell am I not? Because of me she is having to perform a psychological evaluation. This is my doing so therefore I obviously want it and respect its place in our case. I made this happen. Not the State of Minnesota. I asked the courts several times to require it and they wouldn't. Most recently stating that mental health has nothing to do with my case. But by how this is worded it's stating that somehow I'm against it already, before it's even happened. What I don't respect is bureaucratic process when it comes to mental health and the courts. I should not have to fight my government this hard to protect my family. Period.
This writer believes that both parties love their children and want what is best for them. Ms. Schmidt agreed to let the children visit with their father in a supervised setting but is unsure how to move forward due to what she feels are Mr. Alvar’s ongoing harassing behaviors. Mr. Alvar has shown to engage with Declan and Sloane in an appropriate manner but is adamant that Ms. Schmidt needs to have the children removed from her care. It was reported that Declan has had a harder time transitioning to supervised visits with Mr. Alvar, where this Guardian ad Litem believes it would be appropriate that Declan start individual therapy so that he can work through this transitional period. Declan also vocalized his own negative experiences with Mr. Alvar and has repetitively talked negatively to Mr. Alvar. Mr. Alvar has mentioned his concerns with Ms. Schmidt possibly coaching the children, stating that is the reason why Declan is making specific comments. This writer believes that after talking with Declan’s therapist, Ms. Brunette, and other collateral sources, that this writer will have more information to determine what is going on and why the statements Declan has made have become a pattern.
Wow, so based on the fact per all court evidence that I have never abused my children and they have never witnessed abuse, the Guardian ad Litem states Declan should start individual therapy. Okay, yeah, that's good. Right? Why does he need that therapy as he is in the care of his mother? There wouldn't be a need for therapy due to a transitional period if his mother was not abusing him per State of Minnesota law. Right? How is that not understood? I'm honestly glad there is someone else looking out for Declan and hopefully that'll help. I just don't understand why the state says a child needs therapy for what they're going through but allows the child to remain in that environment. The same environment that is causing the trauma. Especially when there are other options that have been found to be safe by the same state court. Such as his father's care. Another note to add. When I was having a conversation with the Guardian ad Litem at the visitation center and I was expressing my concerns regarding the child abuse. She warned me that if I pushed too much and it was found out that the children were to be removed from their mothers care that they would be placed in foster care. I was like what? I have a recognition of parentage from the State of Minnesota and a court order that says the State has no issue with me being their father and you would have the kids placed in foster care? WTF Does this make sense to anyone? Do you realize why this is a nightmare I cannot wake up from? I do not understand?
The Court did not ask this writer to make recommendations as to whether a party would benefit from services, but if the Court did, this writer would recommend that both parties start participating in individual therapy. Both parties would benefit from having a neutral party to help with the ongoing emotions surrounding this custody case.
How do you feel by having your children illegally removed from your care? How do you feel that your children have been traumatized? How do you feel that the State of Minnesota supports this behavior? Not good. Okay, let's work on making you feel better about this. WTF
This Guardian ad Litem believes the temporary recommendations below are in Declan and Sloane’s best interest. This writer is requesting a review hearing in 90 days (or after psychological examinations are completed by both parties) so that permanent recommendations can be made for the family.
Recommendation of the Guardian ad Litem
I have considered the factors in Minn. Stat. § 518.17, subd.1 (a), § 518.18 (d), § 518.175, subd.1 (a), or § 257C in making the following recommendations:
Temporary sole legal and sole physical custody shall remain with Ms. Schmidt.
Mr. Alvar’s parenting time with Declan and Sloane will continue to be supervised at DAIP.
a. Parenting time shall expand to up to two visits a week for a total of 5 hours.
b. Both parties shall work with Ms. Brunette to schedule future visits so that it is conducive to both parties’ schedules.
Declan shall start participating in individual and/or play therapy.
Once both parties complete their psychological evaluations with a parenting component, they will provide an unredacted copy of the results to this Guardian ad Litem.
a. Both Parties will follow all recommendations given from their evaluations.
Both parents shall ensure that no one speaks to Declan and Sloane about age-inappropriate subjects, including this matter, in their presence or hearing distance. Neither party shall speak in a demeaning or derogatory manner to or about the other parent within the hearing or potential hearing of the children. The parties shall likewise ensure that no other individual speaks in a demeaning or derogatory manner to or about the other parent within the hearing or potential hearing of Declan and Sloane. Neither parent shall speak or act in a manner that would reasonably encourage the children to think less of the other parent.
This matter shall be reviewed in 90 days so that permanent recommendations can be made.
Like I said in the beginning of this post, this is only the temporary recommendation and I know anything and everything I state in this post will affect the final recommendation but really? At this point what is the use? If this is the recommendation based on everything that has been provided and witnessed we already know what the recommendation will be. I have never read such a biased report based on nothing factual. It includes clear definitions of child abuse per the State of Minnesota but ignored and excused. There is no reason this temporary recommendation doesn't at least include shared custody of these children such as 50/50 or worst 70/30. But to recommend continued supervised visitation for no factual basis is not okay. If this court is about bringing families together, supporting parenting time and preventing child abuse this report does not show it. Oh yeah, and I have to solely pay for this reporting. This is costing me $750.00. Do you understand why I post this stuff? I'm hoping at some point someone will come along and say bull shit and help me out. Someone that can actually make a difference. I'm also working with every level of legislation. Our laws need to change because this is not okay. Our courts also need to change because some of these actions are already covered in State law but no one does anything about it. We have laws but they're not enforced.
Copies of This Report Sent To
Katie Jarvi, Attorney for Mr. Alvar
Alexander Landreville, Attorney for Ms. Schmidt
Amendment of Supplementation of Report
The Guardian ad Litem in this matter reserves the right to amend and/or supplement this report if any new or additional information becomes available or if any circumstance affects the above recommendations
I would strongly request that this Guardian ad Litem review this report, review the facts, review state law and ask questions if you have any. Then rewrite this temporary recommendation to what's in the best interest of the children. Please.
Signature
By Signing this report, I certify that the content is true and correct based upon personal observation, firsthand knowledge, or information and belief.
/s/JordanMae Dokken
JordanMae Dokken
Guardian ad Lite
I am asking for your help. As you can see the Guardian ad Litem reserves the right to amend and/or supplement this report if any new or additional information becomes available. I would ask that you please help and provide your input in this recommendation. As most of you know me and my family. You know I was raised in a very different way than the Schmidt family. I grew up in a very different environment. I had zero trauma in my upbringing. I am the oldest of four boys. I attended Homecroft Elementary, Woodland Junior High and graduated from Duluth Central High School. We attended Sunday School where we were members of St. John's Catholic Church in the Woodland neighborhood. I was an alter boy when I was young, then played guitar in the youth group band and the main church band. Myself and all my brothers attained the rank of Eagle Scout in Troop 7 in Duluth, MN. This after a childhood of scouting, starting with Cub Scouts in Pack 7. Our family's time was focused on sports, music, hunting/fishing and spending time with our large extended family. Lots of weekly get togethers on Sunday's, camping trips and family events, etc. Our family was focused on support and love which made me who I am today.
We have had bad times in my life as well. Which any family can have, especially a large family with so many members. We've had unexpected losses. Such as losing my brother Josh to suicide when he was eighteen years old. Cancer, heart attacks, auto, domestic violence, etc. has been a factor. I think by now we've experienced it all. But even so, there is an upside, it has brought us closer together.
I'm hoping that with help from my family, friends and anyone willing to help me we can get this temporary order changed. Tell her your experience with me as a father. Tell her your experience with me as a person. Tell her what you think should be recommended. Remember, the Guardian ad Litem's responsibility is to recommend what's in the best interest of the children. Tell her what you would recommend for them. If you could also help me by getting others involved in my story that would be beneficial as well. I'm not only trying to help my family but change our broken system so that others don't have to go though this as well.
Hell, maybe you think this recommendation is acceptable. Maybe you think it should be more restrictive. Maybe you have experiences with Amy you would like to add or help Amy keep custody of the kids. Let the Guardian ad Litem know your thoughts. I just ask that if anyone has any recommendations to please reach out to her and do so.
There was a time in history when community had an involvement in our decisions. I think we can get back to that if I could get your help.
Please contact the Guardian ad Litem, JordanMae Dokken at jordanmae.dokken@courts.state.mn.us and copy my attorney's law firm at karla@johnsonturner.com . Karla Lien is the senior paralegal for my custody case at Johnson Turner. Please include your name and contact information so they can get in touch with you if they have follow up questions.
Thank you for your support for myself and my family. It's been over seven months, please help me end this.
Ryan -
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